What don't you want to risk? The possibility that they do not like you as much as you like them, or that you might get rejected and hurt, or are you friends with them, and you don't want to risk the friendship? Depending on what the answer is, the practical advice could differ.
Generally though regardless of above and trying to move on. What do you like about them? Can you articulate it? If you can't, because its more of a feeling and sense you get, like you can't explain it. Could either be because its hormones, lust, your chemicals etc and thats totally totally okay, real, valid, etc even if you don't think its lust or about attraction in that way, think its about personality etc the two aren't mutually exclusive. When we are young, a lot of all these things influence each other and often get conflated, and difficult to untangle. Could also be because you haven't really thought about why exactly you like this person, which isn't a bad thing, but its good to try and consider and reflect on, because it helps you understand what you like in a partner and how to find a partner that you might like.
If you can articulate it? With like very specific details and insight, thats great, it could mean two things. That you know the person you like well, you listen to them, and pay attention. Depending on what those traits are? They are not exclusive to that person. Meaning there will definitely be more people out there you will like/love as much potentially, some people who may actually be even more compatible with you, or have an even stronger intuitive initial attraction to. In the abstract. Its important to realise that if the person you like, likes you back, this is still true, but... practically speaking, love isn't just the person you like/love the most in the abstract. Too many people, you will never met. Its also about the history and relationship you both build together.
In more simple terms, you have more options. Any intense and strong feelings you have for a person romantically, sexually, emotionally and mentally can be, and most likely will be replicated. You should still approach the person, and they might like you back, and then maybe you are great together and that builds into an amazing long term relationship. Or... maybe they don't like you that way, and that sucks when it happens, but try not take it personally. Another person will come along, and might be even better for you. Or they might like you back, but then you both discover you aren't that great for each other, and you both have to try and move on.
Good luck!
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