First and foremost I am a Rogue fan. I used to love ROMY, but I grew out of that once I began taking a closer look at their relationship throughout the years. From Beginning to end.
Some people like ROMY; other's don't. That's fine, but this thread is more about their breakup and why it is that Rogue is taking all the blame for the way her relationship with Gambit ended when she was only looking to reevaluate her life and all the decisions she's made.
The entire breakup from Milligan to Carey:
During Milligan’s run Gambit (unbeknownst to anyone else at the time) decided to join Apocalypse forces’ because he believed that apocalypse could save the mutants. He then opted to undergo transformation into the new Horseman of Death. Shortly after he debuted his new look and powers by attacking the x-men.
after rogue is shot and put into a coma by mystique; it is revealed that Gambit has made a deal with Mr Sinister and is now working for the Marauders again. He’s there to help Rogue. Rogue wakes up from her coma because mystique used baby goo (Hope) to somehow cure Rogue. Rogue gets angry at Raven and tries to death touch her, but she doesn’t have that power anymore so Raven lives. Rogue says needs space to herself after having a billion minds stuffed into her head. She leaves Gambit in the lab/room(?)
The end her X-Men Legacy arc where she gets her powers under control. She tell’s Gambit she isn’t ready to restart their relationship and Gambit complies with her.
I think it's entirely unfair to blame Rogue for what occurred. It's not like She had any idea what Gambit was doing with Apocalypse, yet she still held out hope for him.
After she had her mind occupied by the billion aliens, she decided to take some time to herself to do some "soul searching", While Gambit was off doing his own thing.
I believe most of us here is familiar with the Salvage arc of Legacy? So I'll just skip to Rogue getting her powers under control.
When she does get her powers under control she tells Gambit pretty much on the spot that she's not ready to start their relationship again, and he agrees by telling her to take all the time she needs. She does just this by taking a job as Teacher to a bunch of X-kids. After that she's pretty much been on mission to mission (as you've seen in Legacy), it was roughly....two months(maybe 6 weeks) later that she ran into Gambit having a conversation with "dark Gambit". From there they spoke about Rogue, her powers, how she's been avoiding Gambit for awhile, and at that time Gambit reveals (in his own dialogue) that he wants to get back together, but Rogue is still hesitant and tells him that although she loves him she's just not ready to be together again.
However, even after all of this there are some people who will insist that Rogue is "being a bitch" or that she is "dragging Gambit along", so why is that? Why is it when they both agreed to remain "friends" with only Gambit changing his mind at a later time; Rogue is demonized for deciding against a relationship renewal and Gambit is seen as a victimized saint?