What Does Maturity Really Mean?


I know this isn't a real comic-centric post, but I feel it needs to be addressed. As nerds, geeks, and fanboys and girls, I'm sure that we have all been accused of being immature and childish. I know I have. I am a young woman just getting ready to enter college, and if there is one thing that high school had taught me, it's that I am not as dumb as everyone says I am. Sure, I couldn't find a job thanks to the recession and my own laziness and school, and yeah I haven't had a boyfriend, but I also wasn't the person to fall into the ridiculous drug scene just because everyone else was, or the person to get the generic tramp stamp, or the person to post tons of nude pictures on the internet, or almost any other stuff that teens are usually accused of doing, or the person who got into a shallow relationship just because everyone else did. I am truly happy with myself, and know that I am kinda prepared for lies ahead. I didn't avoid anything, or was sheltered from any of it, but decided that I just didn't want any of it because it didn't seem to make anyone else happy. Why do that to myself? 
So instead, I became a nerd. I found comics after realizing that anime just wasn't for me. But even before that, I found DBZ-yes, it's an anime, but Goku's close to SuperMan-and Beast Wars, a masterpiece of animation and story-telling. These gave me a foundation and stability, something I might've lacked in my single parent household.  
But back on topic: it's not that these nerdy things prepared me for life, but they did kinda help me adjust. In fact, if it wasn't for the near constant harassment from the other girls-guys, girls are WAY meaner than boys will ever be-I would've been the most well adjusted person in the world. Ok, that's a lie, but I was doing pretty good. I just didn't realize it. Everyone treated me like I was less then them and it made me so angry, which in turn made me act like an idiot. But I was 9, so who cares? And then middle school happened. It was at this point where-upon seeing the fun after affect of binge drinking and unprotected sex-that I realized that maybe I wasn't doing too bad.  
It was High School, though, where I realized that the whole concept of "maturity" is relative. You see, having a job and kids do not make you an adult, and neither does suddenly deciding that you are too old for cartoons or comics. i'm not saying that not having a job is a sign of maturity, just that being an adult is more than that. I was harassed four times a week by people who, yes, they had jobs and some of them even had kids, but they were also lazy, ungrateful jerks who didn't do anything if they thought it was "lame". They lied about their age, how many times they had sex among others. Yet among these were some of the most "mature" people in the school. And they called me childish and immature. Why? Because I couldn't find a job-not totally my fault-and because I like cartoons and comics. And I freely admit it.
29 Comments
29 Comments
Posted by DH69

one way to be mature is not to act like a d-bag. if 60% of the male population and 19% of the female population could master this small feat of strength i would be amazed

Posted by Icon

I became a geek for some of the same reasons no doubt. 

Posted by Rosebunse
@DH69:
I would saymore like 35% of the female population. Have you seen some of them? People just don't expect us to be self-sufficient like guys, so we get away with alot more. You know something else about girls? We are soooo bitter! We can't stand someone doing better than us, so we gossip and trash them until we bring them down to our level.
Posted by Edamame

Maturity is subjective, just like most things in life. 

Posted by Cherry Bomb

Things like 'Family Guy'  are immature.  (: Yes, I HATE that show.

Posted by EdwardWindsor

it means you stop laughing at words like boob 
 
" thats right i heard you snigger" 
 
less included to the crude side of humour etc

Posted by inferiorego
@lazystudent said:
" it means you stop laughing at words like boob   " thats right i heard you snigger"   less included to the crude side of humour etc "
.... don't you mean "snicker?"
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Edited by EdwardWindsor
Posted by Vance Astro
@inferiorego said:
" @lazystudent said:
" it means you stop laughing at words like boob   " thats right i heard you snigger"   less included to the crude side of humour etc "
.... don't you mean "snicker?" "
I sure hope so.
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Edited by EdwardWindsor

 
@Vance Astro: @inferiorego:  is thats enough evidence for you guys that its a legitimate and none mistyped word?
 
I would like to add i am not being arsey about it just asking

Posted by Decoy Elite

Being mature is boring, I'd rather  play Mario Kart then play Chess. I say do what you find fun and don't worry about what other people think. Then again that's just me.

Posted by lord_oraculous016

Maturity means being able to decipher what is wrong and what is right.. being able to understand the facts about life.. being able to admit you're faults.. and responsible enough to their consequences.. Maturity is not bounded by age nor experience.. it is a mutable force of our own beings.. a form of mutation.. for mutation means evolution and development.. and maturity is the pinnacle of our own development as human beings..

Posted by ComicMan24
@lord_oraculous016:
You are right.
Posted by lord_oraculous016
@ComicMan24 said:
" @lord_oraculous016: You are right. "
thanks.. ^__^
Posted by Edamame
@Decoy Elite said:
" Being mature is boring, I'd rather  play Mario Kart then play Chess. I say do what you find fun and don't worry about what other people think. Then again that's just me. "
LOL. There is nothing immature about playing video games. As long as you have the time for it, in addition to your job.
Posted by ComicMan24
@lord_oraculous016:
No problem. 
 
 
As for maturity, who is more mature? A guy or girl who reads comics or a guy who gets drunk all day and is doing stupid stuff like pranks?
Posted by inferiorego
@lazystudent said:
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@Vance Astro: @inferiorego:  is thats enough evidence for you guys that its a legitimate and none mistyped word?  I would like to add i am not being arsey about it just asking "
I've never heard that word before, that's why I was asking
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Edited by EdwardWindsor
@inferiorego:  yeah i thought as much its probs just the same meaning as your spelling. As with a few words you kind of edited them within your own culture and made them your own, so while its technically english you wont see an english person say it your way.
Posted by lord_oraculous016
@ComicMan24 said:
" @lord_oraculous016: No problem.   As for maturity, who is more mature? A guy or girl who reads comics or a guy who gets drunk all day and is doing stupid stuff like pranks? "
like i said, maturity is not bounded by any factor.. it is a state which one assumes the highest level of understanding.. so i say, the ones who reads comics.. why? simple, there is a great difference in being a child and acting childish.. there is nothing wrong in being a child.. the mind of a child is boundless.. a child's imagination transcends the boundaries of reality.. for me, the best example of being, is when one lives his life with the understanding of an adult yet in him/her remains the heart of a child.. ^__^
Posted by ComicMan24
@lord_oraculous016:
Look, I agree with you. I just wanted to express this point.
Posted by lord_oraculous016
@ComicMan24: 
i know.. thanks buddy..  ^__^
Posted by inferiorego
@lazystudent said:
" @inferiorego:  yeah i thought as much its probs just the same meaning as your spelling. As with a few words you kind of edited them within your own culture and made them your own, so while its technically english you wont see an english person say it your way. "
Is this where I'm supposed to fire off a shotgun, drink a beer, wave my flag, and yell "USA! USA!" because I haven't got to do that in like 15 minutes... Man, I'm a hick
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Posted by EdwardWindsor

 @inferiorego:  lol u can do as you please man, is this the point where i go and have tea and crumpets and sit in a smoking jacket reading shakespere. I am looking foward to some friendly England vs USA football on saturday myself i shall be wearing my England shirt lol

Posted by ComicMan24

What is it with all this intensity here?
Posted by ARMIV

Well is sure isn't a matter of age.
I think maturity means knowing right from wrong and being able to make responsible choices.

Posted by Rosebunse
@Decoy Elite:
I think you missed the point. You can all of that so long as it doesn't mess with your other responsibilities and still be an adult.
Posted by RonSiconolfi

getting a job working 9-5, and paying for your own stuff instead of you parents paying 
 
in a nutshell--living on your own
Posted by exodus0000000

Yeah I agree with the other person who said that maturity is subjective.  Even people who are "mature" have moments of immaturity.   My personal definition of maturity is doing something that you don't necessarily want to do, but it's necessary that you do them.  Putting others (friends/family members) before yourself.  Doing what you're SUPPOSED to do rather than doing what you WANT to do.  
 
By the way I'm 25.  I read comics, mangas, play video games, still watch a few cartoons (Chowder, Spongebob, Recess) along with animes, and I don't consider myself a dork/nerd/geek at all.  Those are just my interest.  Just like an individual who enjoys playing sports, those are simply their interest.  Society labels them as jocks and us as nerds.  I also pay bills, my  rent, focus on my studies, have held down a job for 5 years, have a really good relationship with my gf of almost 3 years, don't have any kids and practice safe sex.  I do also enjoy going to partys, watching sports, and occasionally getting s***-faced drunk, so yeah you can be mature and still enjoy "nerdy" interests. 

Posted by RavenDark

Maturity means - when somebody tells you "Congratulations son! Now your just as stupid as the rest of us!"
Legally, it means responsibility for your actions...