The Internet offers a non-gendered space where people can be themselves without really having to worry about performing that aspect of their identity. This is a good place to "come out," and I hope that the acceptance you get from your peers offline comes as easily. As to your parents, examine their socialized values in consciousness and society that hold them back from democratic change in the larger, American culture. "[They] aren't thrilled" does not translate into "they do not love me," and so maybe you can be the bridge between them an greater understanding, opening up avenues for conversations that they may not have really had an opportunity for previously. Good luck.