@skaldadottir: If your friend waited a week to take the job, someone else would apply and probably get it. would you rather a stranger or your friend got the job?
You seem to be under the impression that if you wait to be respectful, the world will respect your respect and wait as well. But no. The longer you wait, the longer you risk the chance of someone coming and taking advantage of the hammer sitting there. The hammer has never sat in one place without someone watching it for so long. What if someone with crazy magics came by and did something crazy? or if Odin had extra time to just Slag the hammer? What if someone just replaced the entire moon, and the hammer was lost to someone with the resources to do that?
the hammer is calling the shots here. it called her from wherever she was. it makes her talk a certain way. and even so, she didnt ever call herself THOR or THORS REPLACEMENT. shes not doing anything wrong. And if she HADNT taken the hammer, All the avengers would be frozen solid still, and Odinson might have lost the second fight in issue #4 and died for real.
If This happened in real life and Thors hammer called you to be new thor, you would absolutely not, no matter how much you adored and respected him. Its the power of THOR! and He cant use it. So theres no reason why she wouldnt. and i think peoples anger towards her being Thor are not really based on anything but personal preference.