I honestly wonder why comic fans say they hate Iron Man because of Civil War. Even as someone who has Captain America as one of his top 10 favorite heroes, it's easy for me to see that that event was SEVERELY biased towards him, and forcefully tried to make him out to be the" hero", while Tony was forced to be the "villain". Terrible writing in my opinion.
you answered your own question: the terrible writing that made "tony" a villain. he was already a jerk, cw tripled that. but really all things aside, i hate him mostly because of his relationship with spider-man. consider (and if not, you are a hypocrite to begin with) someone a friend, upgrade his costume but record every move, put brain wave readers in it and what-not, discover the secret of spider-sense, collect enough info to predict all his moves? now. with friends like tony, you dont need enemies.
just finished secret invasion and i LOVE how that event completely thrashed iron man. bwahahah! him and maria hill and all freaking shield!!! good freaking riddance.