why is being a virgin looked upon so poorly?

But everyone starts out a virgin. :P

Except Bruce Campbell

@innervenom123 said:

Everyone starts out a foetus too, and racists still hate black people.

Something to think about (nods)

That's about the experience you'll attain rather than a mental stigma I assume.

Ha ha

This is brilliant.

Ooo [narrow eyes and rubs jaw]

Because everybody thinks that sex makes you more mature.

Personally I think that having no control of hormonal desires makes LESS mature.

you care while you have it. when you lose, you go 1 of 2 roads: dont care anymore these things and you're not a dick to the next generations or you are a dick to the next generations. simple.

@logy5000: Maturity is over rated but I don't think someone should be looked down on for being a virgin.

But as a foetus, you don't get to choose what race you are.

You do however eventually get to choose if and when you have sex.

I don't now what the fuss is all about, sex is overrated anyway.

Coming from someone in high school, it's viewed as the "cool" thing nowadays. But it's not like anything is wrong with you, as long as you are doing what you think is right, screw them. It's not always about having as much sex, it's more about enjoying the decisions in your life. Sex is just the cherry on top, in my opinion. Never done it before.

Not if you're doing it right.

short answer - it really isnt, and if anyone is doing so its outright childish.

Most people don't do it right.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, or not being a virgin. The only thing that is wrong is if something outside of your own thoughts and wants and views influences your decision.

For what it's worth, I would not regard a guy who is a virgin as being a "loser" etc.

Oh the things comic book fans say.

It's true! First you need to figure out exactly HOW many Hit Points the girl has, and subtract it to how many thrust points you have, then you have! It's easy man!

@joshmightbe: @the_stegman: I don't think you guys know what you're talking about.

Ok casanova, whatever you say.

@awesam: I was saying if you're having sex right then its one of the funnest things on Earth

@joshmightbe: Yeah... no, it's overrated.

You gotta' be pretty strange to do it wrong.

@awesam: I have literally never done anything more fun, sure the effort to get it can be depressing and a serious chore but it's worth it as far as I'm concerned. I have done all kinds of crazy crap in my life up to and including hard drugs for a brief stint but nothing so far can compete.

@joshmightbe: Well, that's just preference. Also, you probably lived an uneventful life. Skydiving's more fun.

Who cares about what other people say about being a virgin?

@awesam: I've never sky dived but my life has been plenty eventful, and its kind of douchey for you to just assume otherwise. Also jumping out of a perfectly good plane for fun seems pretty dumb to me.

@joshmightbe: I meant it as a joke, but I understand how you would take offense to it. Sorry. Also, you can't really judge it without trying it yourself.

@awesam: I'm not saying that people who sky dive are dumb I'm saying the whole concept seems like a bad idea. I'm okay with doing risky things but it just seems crazy to do something where you know for a fact that the only option other than having fun is gory death.

@joshmightbe: That's what makes it fun.

Not really, when you're young and you think it's going to last. And one I had plans to marry until I deployed and she slept around. A relationship can be serious even if it doesn't last. So no, I did not contradict myself.

I am in the exact same position currently. My friends seem like they literally cannot fathom why I would even want to wait, it gets pretty annoying.

Save your feelings for the one you love

Experiment with sex with strangers you don't love

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do whatever you want with your p or your vagee

its just that nowadays values have changed

I feel sad for virgins. It's like visiting the beach but not stepping in the ocean. It feels amazing!

Woops. That reply was late at night lol. I thought the bold said "at the same time".

Virtues have seemingly lost of interest as of latest century.

@sog7dc: Mostly i think those of us who did it too early (that does include me) and with someone they didnt really care for, wish they could take it back and do it again with someone they actually liked. For me it was a personal regret and i dont judge anyone for having sex earlier or later than me, but i know there are some who are jealous that they will never have their first time again and will try to force others into the same situation because as we all know, misery loves company.

I doubt thats everyone's reason but honestly, stick to your guns, let the first time actually mean something and not just be some drunken fumble, youll feel much better about yourself in the end.

Old fashioned virgin here btw. Biding time for the sureshot.

Haha! Isn't sleep deprivation fun? No I've never cheated on someone, I've been cheated on and it was one of the crappiest feelings I've ever experienced. I would never do that to someone else.

I think that everyone should choose the point at which they desire to have sex without being judged, though this will always be impossible.

If one chooses to not commit to a sexual relationship until they're married I give props to them, they've got incredible willpower. This isn't me saying that everyone is a sex crazed fiend but everyone feels the urges due to the wild hormones we have in our bodies.

Though this also means that it shouldn't be looked down upon if someone decides to have sex rather early in their life. Nobody should be branded a whore or a slut because they enjoy sexual intercourse.

The problem arises for me when people begin having sex that isn't safe. The only reason being then you've got a lot of problems on your plate including possible unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, just a whole bunch of bad stuff. If one can practice the acts of sex in a safe environment, go for it, as long as the participants are their willingly and have given consent.

Also make sure your first time is special and not some drunken activity you participated in. It's a real shame when people don't have a good memory of their first time.

At its core, being a virgin is looked down upon for the same reason that a woman being slutty is looked down upon.

I think it's because men wanna get laid that bad and the women who lost it felt a sudden sense of regret as they just realized their not getting it back. So they invite that term being a "Virgin" is bad. lol

But IMO women should wait tell marriage. Let the guy wait and work for it.

Because sex rules. Saying you haven't had sex is like saying you've never had ice cream.

All of the above really.

My closest friends are virgins. One is waiting for love (a committed relationship with a quality girl, not necessarily marriage) and the other just recently started talking to females. I don't look down on them at all. I respect them, if anything. But for me personally, if I were still a virgin at almost 21 I'd be livid with myself, for the sole reason that sex is friggin' wonderful.

And some people are Christians also.

And Muslims. Lots of religions advocate for abstinence until marriage.