Why do people make a big deal of sex after marriage?

Is it that serious? So, if you have sex before marriage...God will send you to hell for all eternity?

No its something in our nature, if you are a father you want your daughter to be pure, classy, and save herself for a husband that is successful and will make her happy however as a guy its in our nature to be the alpha male and get everything we can till we find the women we will eventually want to spend our lives with

Weird topic, but it's all about religion, basically. I think it's on the contrary because I have yet to meet anyone who's actually waited for marriage to have sex.

On a side-note; God is more interested in whether or not you believe in him over ANYTHING you could possibly think of.

Because some people actually see Sex as a special and valuable thing, that only involves that one other person.

They don't!

No!

people be crazy

Some people believe in the "making love" version of sex, where you should only "make love" with the person you love and that's usually after getting married, and more often than not, the person you love is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with anyway. Plus some people are raised that way.

Who wants to be a ho?!!

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I think it was a much bigger deal in the days when casual sex was a lot more likely to lead to childbirth

Religion and the fact that a lot of people believe that you should have sex with only one person

I remember this one guy on the Vine who constantly talked about how if you have sex before marriage (even with just a single partner/longtime gf or bf), you'll get addicted to sex, spend all your money on crackwhores and will end up on the street. He was serious.

Fun times...

Let people do what they do, never you mind none. Taint your business.

because people are morons

@amazingwebhead: You forgot the "m" after the first o. Those guys love procreation so much they found a loop hole. More wives = more sex.

I dunno, I want my meals cooked by someone who's been in a kitchen before. If you know what I mean... O__o

And if they suck at "cooking":

@batman242: you're still here???

Speaking as someone who grew up in a very conservative religious home, I can definitely understand why many people choose to wait till marriage before committing certain physical acts with another person. Mostly it involves pressure from the parents, pressure from a pastor, pressure from fellow church goers, other religious friends, etc. Of course there does exist a rare faction of people, like myself, who genuinely wish to save themselves for the person they want to share the rest of their life with, regardless of their parents/pastors/friends influences. I view it as the best gift I can give my future spouse. There aren't many things I can control in life, but I can control who I choose to share myself with and I choose to only share it with one person.

Very good and respectable response. I agree 100%

I too grew up with pressure from parents and relgious officials to avoid sex. Unfortunately, I did not wait. But I do not judge people who choose to wait nor do I judge those who choose to be a ho.

As long as they do it safely then I have no problem with how people choose to express their sexuality

Virgins? Jk. What makes you think that an old-fashioned monogamous couple's sex is more special than couples who practice alternative sexual relationships? If two people love each other why would it matter how many sexual partners they have had before they found their mate?

This. It's important for people to have some experience with sexual relationships before they get married so that they can develop realistic expectations for their partner. When you're basing your love life off of Disney Movies, RomComs, or Porn, you will be severely disappointed with how easily a sham marriage can fall to pieces.

because they just do

@dngn4774: Yep.

I have so much respect for those who have the patients to wait for that one person.. instead of feeling like they have to, "because it's normal" or the idea that "if you like that person go for it."

Hahaha! You know it, dude *bro fist*

You actually sum up my thoughts on the matter pretty well. I don't like this archaic idea that somehow sex is dirty or bad, and that having it with many people makes it less special, or that you love someone less if you have a history prior to them (somehow, even though you didn't know them then and they weren't there O_o). It's a very personal experience, it's kind silly to think there are "right" and "wrong" attitudes to have toward it. As long as everyone involved is happy and consenting, what is it to anyone else?

I find it silly how having sex with multiple partners casually.. is equally special to waiting for that one person who deserves it.. O.o.

It's almost like saying getting something for free holds the same worth as working hard for what you've earned. That's kinda backwards.

It's just so easy to use excuses to have sex like, love and consenting. It's harder, and takes effort to wait because you love that person.. especially in America.

It's not about sleeping with as many partners to fulfill some hedonistic view of pleasure. It's about experimenting with potential mates so you may discover which traits you like in a partner or a relationship, so that you may find happiness. In a way you are using each relationship to work on yourself rather than just slipping a ring on the first like minded person that you're attracted to. Essentially you're finding out what happens after happily ever after rather than committing your life to one love story. There's a huge difference between thinking you're in love and knowing you're in love, and in most cases it takes experience to know that difference. Saying that sexual experience tarnishes each relationship and that repression makes a relationship more valuable is silly.

It's a joke is what it is.

It all means the same thing to me.

The world is full of strange people.

Sex is one of the best things ever. To deny yourself the pleasure and experience and limit yourself to one person ever is asinine.