Do you really sit there and take stock of the people you've slept with and keep a list or count to make sure you can tell future partners that you've been with them? Getting tested on a regular basis and providing your partner that information is essential yes. But detailing... "Soo back in college, I slept with jack and tom and stacy and michael and jenna. Then in grad school there was my two year relationship with dennis and we had four threesomes with some random bargirls, etc.
Are you telling me you DON'T know the amount of people you've slept with?
If anything, THAT'S ridiculous.
I'm not saying that you have to tell your significant other the people's names, age, address, occupation, cell phone number, social security number, etc., but you should certainly be able to be like "Yeah, I've slept with 30 people..." if they want to know that information.
That's ridiculous. Sharing personal sex history and numbers can be seriously damaging to relationships by creating unwarranted standards in your partners head and feelings of inadequacy. There is no need to tell your partner, male or female, how many people you have slept with.
Obviously you don't just go around sharing that information, but if your committed partner asks you and really wants to know, it is your obligation as a part of that relationship to be honest with them. A serious relationship is built on trust, and to withhold that information when they want to know is a serious breach of trust.
Your sexual health is different. That doesn't mean you need to tell them a number. Because one or 20, the risk is pretty much the same.
What? No? Not even close?
If I'm with one girl, that means I have one opportunity to get an STD. If I'm with 30 girls, that means I have THIRTY opportunities to get an STD.
How could you possibly say such a crazy statement?!?!
If that one had an std and its dormant, its dormant. And a lot of stds are actually dormant in people naturally. My friend Krystina had oral herpes at 15 (which is pretty much normal cold sores for those of you who didnt know) and she was a virgin who never even had a bf or a first kiss yet.
Weird story, but that doesn't change the fact that sleeping with more people increases the chance of an STD. That's just a fact.
And if you're really paranoid like that, you better start counting who you have kissed too. Because a lot of stds can be transmitted that way. Or by getting an unhygienic tattoo. Or shaking someones hand while both of you have paper cuts and they have AIDs.
*sigh*
You're not honestly equating having sex with shaking someone's hand, now are you?
Yes, all of those methods above can give you STD's. But that's a lot more rare than transmitting it sexually. Hence why it's called a SEXUALLY transmitted disease.
Keeping track of your own personal sexual health has no bearing on telling your partner the number of people you have slept with.
I totally disagree.
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