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#1 Edited by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

What's your honest opinion on the transexual lifestyle? What do you think about the choice they make? Do you think it's reasonable? What do you think about the main argument of being born in the opposite body? Share your thoughts.

#2 Posted by The Stegman (23018 posts) - - Show Bio

I'm not them, I don't know what they're going through, I can't possibly judge them for it. I say do whatever makes you happy.

#3 Posted by Guardiandevil83 (5276 posts) - - Show Bio

Let people do what they do.

#4 Posted by Joygirl (18462 posts) - - Show Bio

I don't think I can post in this thread, since it's supposed to be from the outside looking in, right?

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#5 Edited by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

@joygirl:

I guess you can post arguments or personal experiences in response to someone. But as for the main questions, I don't think you should since they're directed at others. Other than that, you're still welcome.

#6 Posted by cyberninja (10413 posts) - - Show Bio

More power to them.

#7 Posted by Yokergeist (12355 posts) - - Show Bio

I personally wouldn't do it but other people can do what they want if it makes them happy.

#8 Edited by TotalBalance (724 posts) - - Show Bio

I Just think of it this way, there was that thread just a little while back about what you would do if you woke up as the opposite gender, now I am sure a lot of people could come up with "fun" things they would want to do like play with their new found "parts" and so on. But then I think what that would actually be like in the long term, your friends wouldn't look at you the same as if you were your previous gender, your significant other would probably also have some problems, basically society as a whole wouldn't view you as you view yourself. Because bottom line, if you are a man who found himself suddenly inside a woman's body the "fun" would probably wear off quickly and then you would end up just feeling very awkward and out of place, because although you are a "woman" you have a man's mind. As such I understand why they want to change so that societies view of them better reflects how they view themselves. Unfortunately we don't do a very good job of acting kindly and accepting them as their true gender and prefer to think of them just as they were born, this needs to change.

So in summary, I don't judge them and support them in their attempts to live a happier life.

#9 Posted by sesquipedalophobe (4691 posts) - - Show Bio

My neighbors are transsexuals. Pretty nice people. There isn't much to think about it, actually.

#10 Posted by OmgOmgWtfWtf (6936 posts) - - Show Bio

Honestly, I think androgyny is hot.

#11 Edited by Immortal777 (6862 posts) - - Show Bio

I don't care either way as long as whatever the individual is doing doesn't affect me power to them.

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#12 Posted by cameron83 (6634 posts) - - Show Bio

My neighbors are transsexuals. Pretty nice people. There isn't much to think about it, actually.

#13 Posted by GreenLanternHalJordan (18 posts) - - Show Bio

Tried it. Didn't like it. Thong wedgies and high heels are a b***ch.

#14 Posted by Dabee (2379 posts) - - Show Bio

It's frankly none of my business. Whatever gender someone feels like they are is what they are to me. I don't go around judging people who have had heart transplants. They fixed something that was wrong, via a medical procedure. I look at transexuals the same way. They feel there is something physically wrong with them, so they fix it. It's just as much my business as whether or not someone's had a heart transplant. I say go for it. But again, who cares what I say? It's none of my business.

#15 Posted by Abocado (666 posts) - - Show Bio

YUCK!

#16 Posted by _Cain_ (23607 posts) - - Show Bio

It takes a lot of courage to do what they do, and I support them for it.

I for one, feel as though I am the correct gender, and see no reason to change or anything, but I'm cool with whoever the hell does feel differently.

#17 Posted by Joygirl (18462 posts) - - Show Bio

@shadowknight666: If you're interested, the term for that is "cisgender". Means you personally identify as the sex you were born as.

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#18 Posted by TheTrueBarryAllen (4272 posts) - - Show Bio

Let people do what they want to do, it's not my place to dictate how they life their lives.

We're all humans no matter what our gender is.

I actually want to applaud all the people brave enough to act on their impulses and what they feel is right in terms of switching genders. It takes a lot of guts to commit to something like that, especially knowing how the majority of people would react to such a thing. Some pretty brave people doing some pretty great things.

#19 Posted by RedLantern23 (883 posts) - - Show Bio

There seems to be a lot of threads dedicated to this topic on the vine. Not that there is anything wrong with it, its just the last place I'd expect it to be discussed.

But on topic, good for them! Live your life the way you want. Its yours after all.

#20 Posted by _Grifter_ (10902 posts) - - Show Bio

I'm not them, I don't know what they're going through, I can't possibly judge them for it. I say do whatever makes you happy.

#21 Edited by consolemaster001 (4938 posts) - - Show Bio

Must be hard ?

#22 Posted by laflux (14112 posts) - - Show Bio

@dabee said:

It's frankly none of my business. Whatever gender someone feels like they are is what they are to me. I don't go around judging people who have had heart transplants. They fixed something that was wrong, via a medical procedure. I look at transexuals the same way. They feel there is something physically wrong with them, so they fix it. It's just as much my business as whether or not someone's had a heart transplant. I say go for it. But again, who cares what I say? It's none of my business.

pretty much this

#24 Posted by consolemaster001 (4938 posts) - - Show Bio
#25 Edited by SC (12691 posts) - - Show Bio

My opinion on the transexual lifestyle is that they are great! Oh wait did you say my honest opinion? Oh that changes things now, see, deep down I am scared of them, because my gut and emotional reaction is to feel ewwh yuck, plus in biology class at school, they taught us a man is a man, a woman is a woman and a spade is a spade, plus I have a magic book that tells me its wrong! So when confronted with them or discussions about them, I make veiled insults and remarks about them whilst looking around to see which people share my opinions and perspectives and nodding my head at them whilst fist pumping the air.

Hmmm, no that doesn't sound right either. Okay more sincerely, the way I think about the transexual lifestyle, is the same as the way I think about the comic book fan lifestyle, the Rastafarian lifestyle, the Vegan lifestyle, the heterosexual lifestyle, the Brony lifestyle, the People Who Eat Food lifestyle, the Ambiguously Christian lifestyle, the Pansexual lifestyle, the Atheist lifestyle, the NWA lifestyle, the Italian lifestyle, the I Believe in the SHIELD lifestyle, the transgender lifestyle, the All Boy Waxing lifestyle, the Blue lifestyle, the Never Nudes lifestyle, the People Who Sleep Lifestyle, and thats awesome, cool people! Good luck to them, I wonder if any of them listen to Clams Casino or Salem. I love Clams Casino and Salem. Lots of different types of transexual people just like there are lots of different types of all people, so what's reasonable will depend, but in the general sense, there is nothing unreasonable about such choices many transexuals make, have made, will make, sort of like everyone else and choices in general, ultimately depends on specifics. As far as opposite bodies? Sort of depends on a persons knowledge and awareness and whats familiar to them as far as understanding about gender and sex and social constructs and even the language they use and terms they define. Such things typically need to be defined before ideas like opposite are introduced, in some societies and countries, there are more than two genders for example.

Humans develop naturally to feel more than they think, and they are naturally xenophobic, since its a handy automatic safety system, but more so in hundreds of years past than today, and that mechanism affects how we conform and deviate and treat those that conform and deviate and so typically any minority and anyone demonstrated significant differences were prime targets for social exclusion as well as vapid and shallow criticisms and unfortunately even more aggressive and violent reactions, so in that sense, its got to be tough for a lot of transexuals, in a lot of different contexts, and adversity usually breeds character so I am not surprised that all the transexuals I have known personally have been pretty cool people. Some thoughts have been shared.

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#26 Edited by AweSam (7373 posts) - - Show Bio

Meh... I'm pretty indifferent. It's nice not having an opinion.

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#28 Posted by martyyy15 (1223 posts) - - Show Bio

@pyrogram:

Well anyone here knows my opinion on this, but I do think he was a bit rude there. Granted he did answer the question the thread was asking, but it was a bit offensive the way he did it. He could have said it in less rude way. Man just next time think about how you word things, I mean you can express your opinion ( I mean that is what the thread is asking for) but do it in a mature non offensive manner.

#29 Posted by Jorgevy (5114 posts) - - Show Bio

lifestyle? is it a lifestyle? choice? is it a choice?

I just see it as people who happened to be born with the wrong genitalia, so they fix that and voilá! it's all good.

if you consider yourself a woman, you're a woman to me. If you consider yourself a man, you're a man to me.

weird comparison but I'll try to play it - if one day I woke up as an alien, I'd try everything to make myself human again. it's a search for who you truly are, and if you can do it with a procedure right now in the 21st century, then it's all good.

the only thing I feel bad about, is that most people who change sexes can't have kids biologically. I wish we could find a way of changing sexes like, on a cellular level, like fully. but I guess they can still adopt, after all, love is love right? it doesn't matter how you came to be, you're a human, you deserve to give love and receive love

#30 Posted by Joygirl (18462 posts) - - Show Bio

Re: Rudeness: Yeah, seriously, people need to learn that their comments are directed at real people with real feelings, who will see what you said. For example, me. Think before you blab. Re: Lifestyle Choice: I have always hated that term. There is very little choice involved. The problem persists whether or not you choose to fix it. Being gay or trans is a choice the same way eating is a choice -- sure, you don't HAVE to, but you'll die if you don't.

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#31 Posted by Dabee (2379 posts) - - Show Bio

@joygirl said:

Re: Rudeness: Yeah, seriously, people need to learn that their comments are directed at real people with real feelings, who will see what you said. For example, me. Think before you blab. Re: Lifestyle Choice: I have always hated that term. There is very little choice involved. The problem persists whether or not you choose to fix it. Being gay or trans is a choice the same way eating is a choice -- sure, you don't HAVE to, but you'll die if you don't.

This. People seem to talk about homosexuals/transgenders in conversation as if they are something that can be herded. When really they're no less people (seriously, not a bit less) than the people having the conversation. For a bunch of us who are not transgender to be having a discussion about it is inherently wrong.

I personally wouldn't do it but other people can do what they want if it makes them happy.

This post I don't really understand. That's like saying "personally I would never have a kidney transplant, but if you need one go for it." Of course you're not going to become transgender because you don't need to, just as you don't need a kidney transplant.

#32 Posted by Lady_Liberty (8211 posts) - - Show Bio

Its a free country. You have a right to whatever identity you want. Male, female, whatever. It's your life and how you live it is your choice.

On a more personal level I think it is brave and I wish them luck.

#33 Edited by Vance Astro (91105 posts) - - Show Bio

I don't judge them or have anything against them personally but I don't think anyone CAN change their sex. I don't think of a trans girl as a girl, he's still a male to me.

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#34 Edited by martyyy15 (1223 posts) - - Show Bio

@vance_astro:

This don't got to do with topic but, my img button to post pics isn't working. Like nothing happens when I click it. Any idea about that, being a mod and all?

#35 Posted by Vance Astro (91105 posts) - - Show Bio

@martyyy15 said:

@vance_astro:

This don't got to do with topic but, my img button to post pics isn't working. Like nothing happens when I click it. Any idea about that, being a mod and all?

You should report it in the "Bug Reporting" Forum. I don't know why that's happening.

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#36 Posted by martyyy15 (1223 posts) - - Show Bio

@vance_astro:

Nah I'll give it a few days before I do that. Thanks

#37 Edited by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

I don't judge them or have anything against them personally but I don't think anyone CAN change their sex. I don't think of a trans girl as a girl, he's still a male to me.

I sorta agree with this

#38 Posted by Jorgevy (5114 posts) - - Show Bio

@vance_astro said:

I don't judge them or have anything against them personally but I don't think anyone CAN change their sex. I don't think of a trans girl as a girl, he's still a male to me.

I sorta agree with this

I feel like I have to ask you guys this, feel free to answer or not: what if you fell in love with a girl and only afterwards did you find out that she had at one point been of the opposite gender?
would you reject those feelings?

#39 Posted by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

@jorgevy said:

@pfcoolio14 said:
@vance_astro said:

I don't judge them or have anything against them personally but I don't think anyone CAN change their sex. I don't think of a trans girl as a girl, he's still a male to me.

I sorta agree with this

I feel like I have to ask you guys this, feel free to answer or not: what if you fell in love with a girl and only afterwards did you find out that she had at one point been of the opposite gender?

would you reject those feelings?

Ya, no offense, but I'd be revolted and I would never be able to look at that person the same again. Once I see you as a male, you're a male. I've been attracted to females and will stay attracted to females. I wouldn't reject the feelings. They'd just go away. And on a side note, those kinds of things have to told immediately before.

#40 Edited by ShadowX (1214 posts) - - Show Bio

@pfcoolio14: would you tell your most personal medical history or the status of your genitals on the first date? Or do you go around asking about peoples genitals or mmedical history...?

Now what if telling them could put your life in danger?

Now rethink what you said and tell us if we have to tell you immediately..

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#41 Posted by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

@shadowx:

I'm not saying you tell on the first date. I'm saying you tell before a relationship gets serious like falling in love. Before anyone decides to get in bed or go for a make out, you have to tell to see if the other person is still willing. And then, if the person is still willing, do you continue.

#42 Posted by Yung ANcient One (4601 posts) - - Show Bio

Honestly, I think it is disgusting, and makes no sense at all. However, just because I do not understand doesn't mean it is actually "wrong." This is just how I view it. I am sure there are things I do or have done that others think is it disgusting, awful, evil and/or et cetera. At the end of the day I DONT GIVE A ****! It is their life, they can live it how they want to just like I can.

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#43 Posted by Jorgevy (5114 posts) - - Show Bio

Ya, no offense, but I'd be revolted and I would never be able to look at that person the same again. Once I see you as a male, you're a male. I've been attracted to females and will stay attracted to females. I wouldn't reject the feelings. They'd just go away. And on a side note, those kinds of things have to told immediately before.

I cannot comprehend this... I mean, how can you say the feeling would just GO AWAY, how can it be that simple? and if you are attracted to females, knowing that person happened to not exactly be one some time ago, shouldn't really influence your attraction, since you know, she looks and acts and IS a girl in every way except microscopically, so unless you are Superman, you wouldn't be able to tell.

#44 Posted by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio
@jorgevy said:

@pfcoolio14 said:

Ya, no offense, but I'd be revolted and I would never be able to look at that person the same again. Once I see you as a male, you're a male. I've been attracted to females and will stay attracted to females. I wouldn't reject the feelings. They'd just go away. And on a side note, those kinds of things have to told immediately before.

I cannot comprehend this... I mean, how can you say the feeling would just GO AWAY, how can it be that simple? and if you are attracted to females, knowing that person happened to not exactly be one some time ago, shouldn't really influence your attraction, since you know, she looks and acts and IS a girl in every way except microscopically, so unless you are Superman, you wouldn't be able to tell.

I'm sorry if you don't get it, but that's just how I feel. I'm not attracted to transgenders. Knowing that a person was originally a male deletes those feelings for me. I don't think a female is manufactured, I think they're born just the way they are. That's my personal opinion. I respect a transgender persons decision but I don't agree with it. It does influence my attraction. Key word, MY. Every person is different. And knowing a person was born the same gender as me makes me view the person as the same gender as me.

#45 Posted by ShadowX (1214 posts) - - Show Bio

@pfcoolio14: so then.. a trans man would be fair game to you right. Because to you there females?

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#46 Edited by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

@shadowx said:

@pfcoolio14: so then.. a trans man would be fair game to you right. Because to you there females?

I think they're females. As for would I go for one, not my cup of tea. For me to date someone, they should have been born female and also look female. I'm not attracted to the male body, so I'm not going for a trans man.

#47 Posted by ShadowX (1214 posts) - - Show Bio

@pfcoolio14: so trans woman are off the table because were men... and trans men are also men( well look like "men")?

But also what does looking female to you mean exactly. Many cis woman dress and look very difdernt ways. There are curvy woman, flat woaman, tall woman short woman. What does a woman look like to you.

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#48 Posted by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

@shadowx:

The trans men

There's no exact way a women looks. There are just certain things that differentiate. A female genital organ. A majority of the time, the ability to naturally produce offspring(unless they have something like Turner's syndrome which is found in females), breasts that produce milk when pregnant, a body that naturally produced large amounts of estrogen from the start. I'm not just gonna blurt out boobs or V*gina. Anywho, a woman doesn't look like a man. For me, a woman is a woman. That's my preference.

#49 Posted by ShadowX (1214 posts) - - Show Bio

@pfcoolio14: many trans woman dont look like men. They may have female genitals, and breasts( that can produce milk), and may even have high level of estrogens( when i was younger i had a higher then average level)

Meanwhile some woaman are flatchested or may have difficulty producing milk. And may have low levels of estrogen.

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#50 Posted by Pfcoolio14 (1139 posts) - - Show Bio

@shadowx said:

@pfcoolio14: many trans woman dont look like men. They may have female genitals, and breasts( that can produce milk), and may even have high level of estrogens( when i was younger i had a higher then average level)

Meanwhile some woaman are flatchested or may have difficulty producing milk. And may have low levels of estrogen.

But they were born men. I feel like we just went around to the beginning. Anywho, this is my personal preference. I'm not trying to be a jerk but I will never be attracted to someone who came out of their mother's womb a male. No matter how hard they believe that they're a female, that won't change as well as the fact that they have two X chromosomes. No amount of plastic surgery can change that. For me, no one can change their sex. No one can be born the way they are and decide that they want to change it the next day. I'm sorry if you don't like my view or agree with it, but that's how I see it. Once the fact that a person was a male comes out I lose all sense of attraction.