my nephews do that to me. they are all really young and im a big part of their life. tell them simply that im your well in this case "I'm your sister" of course you can add things to it and stuff but yeah.
just tell her in proper english/spanish that you are not her mommy
thats how you should treat children, dont just say "goo gee gaah", thats not how they learn to talk speak with proper grammar and they will understand how to speak better
U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
if I thought of calling whoever raised me mom I wouldn't have one...that's why I stick with referring to my biological mother as mom"
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
i think that you can go about it in diff. ways from what i see here
since your raising her your not her sister. ya know just like how a parent has to be a parent before they are their children's friend. my mom always said to me when i messed up "I'm your mother not your friend" so you could let her call you mother
or you could explain to her in a simple way what happened to your mother, pointing out that she isnt here and that your her sister. in the best way that you can
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
if I thought of calling whoever raised me mom I wouldn't have one...that's why I stick with referring to my biological mother as mom"
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my mom didn't raise me, she was never at home, no one raised me, I had babysitters I guess but that's it and I never called them mom...doesn't make sense to me why I would"
Thats a completely different situation entirely. I think u know that.
i never had a dad and when my mom got a bf who she was with for nine years i always looked at him as my dad. i call him dad. but i do know that if my daughter ever calls some other guy dad theres gonna be a fight
so its different but I stand by my point of not understanding why people always lie to children like that...its not like your helping them out in life, at least you know your grandma is your grandma, Sha should at least explain she's not the mother of Shayla"
As far as I can tell no one is advocating lying to the child. But if shes not old enough to understand that what would be the point? Shes already (from what has been posted) gone through a traumatic ordeal. If calling Sha mommy some how brings her comfort or helps her cope then I see no reason the shatter the illusion now. Sure at some point it would be wise for Sha to sit her down and explain exactly what happened and what the situation is.
However she could point out how she raised her as her own daughter. And that just because she didn't give birth to her in no way means she loves her any less or diminishes their life together as a family.
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website?
we have philosophers and people with degrees in quantum physics on this site, I dont see how here could be worse than anyone else"
And? We also have people who fight for three days about who can beat who, Superman or Goku. Theres alot more of them then Philosophers and people with Quantum Physics degrees. Which by the way contributes nothing to the actual question. A degree in QP doesnt mean you know the first thing about parenting.
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website?
we have philosophers and people with degrees in quantum physics on this site, I dont see how here could be worse than anyone else"
And? We also have people who fight for three days about who can beat who, Superman or Goku. Theres alot more of them then Philosophers and Quantum Physics. Which by the way contributes nothing to the actual question. A degree in QP doesnt mean you know the first thing about parenting."
agreed but lets not forget we do have some parents on this site too
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website?
we have philosophers and people with degrees in quantum physics on this site, I dont see how here could be worse than anyone else"
And? We also have people who fight for three days about who can beat who, Superman or Goku. Theres alot more of them then Philosophers and Quantum Physics. Which by the way contributes nothing to the actual question. A degree in QP doesnt mean you know the first thing about parenting."
agreed but lets not forget we do have some parents on this site too"
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website?
we have philosophers and people with degrees in quantum physics on this site, I dont see how here could be worse than anyone else"
And? We also have people who fight for three days about who can beat who, Superman or Goku. Theres alot more of them then Philosophers and people with Quantum Physics degrees. Which by the way contributes nothing to the actual question. A degree in QP doesnt mean you know the first thing about parenting."
I was simply stating something you can calm down o__O
and I already put my two cents in at the beginning of the thread, if you want me to put this track on repeat I will gladly make another meaningless post
"i think that you can go about it in diff. ways from what i see here
since your raising her your not her sister. ya know just like how a parent has to be a parent before they are their children's friend. my mom always said to me when i messed up "I'm your mother not your friend" so you could let her call you mother
or you could explain to her in a simple way what happened to your mother, pointing out that she isnt here and that your her sister. in the best way that you can
but thats just my op"
Lol, thats what my mom says. But my father says: "I'm your Father. I'm your friend. Now grab a beer and lets watch football" :P jk.
I was simply stating something you can calm down o__O
and I already put my two cents in at the beginning of the thread, if you want me to put this track on repeat I will gladly make another meaningless post"
Calm down? I was simply responding to you quoting me. No need to start acting silly.
And as far as your first post goes, no need to repeat something no one payed attention to in the first place.
sha hon, from a social work point of view.. just be honest.. explain who you are and be clear with her.. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand.. kids are amazingly resiliant.. she will strugggle but she will deal. have faith
she is 2 years old youd have better luck telling her that santa claus aint real than telling her not to call you mom. like i said if my daughter ever calls another guy dad im surely gonna be pissed but i also know that my ex had another daughter who has called me dad for the past two years and she has a good dad but getting her to listen and understand doesnt work b/c she is still to young to get what is going on. hell getting a 2 year old to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone trying to explain something as complex as to who her real mom is and so forth
"sha hon, from a social work point of view.. just be honest.. explain who you are and be clear with her.. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand.. kids are amazingly resiliant.. she will strugggle but she will deal. have faith
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from a guy who works at a sporting goods store point of view ..............uh i don't know.
"she is 2 years old youd have better luck telling her that santa claus aint real than telling her not to call you mom. like i said if my daughter ever calls another guy dad im surely gonna be pissed but i also know that my ex had another daughter who has called me dad for the past two years and she has a good dad but getting her to listen and understand doesnt work b/c she is still to young to get what is going on. hell getting a 2 year old to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone trying to explain something as complex as to who her real mom is and so forth"
Yea, but a 2 year old doesn't understand what a Mom is either. So, honestly it shouldn't be that hard to get her to call her sister. Because to a two year, that could mean the same. Children minds are better at learning things then adults. Their minds are like sponges (I know you probably know this, seeing how you have a daughter but, I'm just saying it) they can learn new words easily. Does that mean they understand what they mean though? No. So, really right now, if you try to convince her you are her sister not her mommy, that won't leave any emotional scars. But, to be honest, I would probably try to convince I'm not her father or whatever. But, I can't say for sure, cause I never had a baby brother or sister. I'm the youngest.
"sha hon, from a social work point of view.. just be honest.. explain who you are and be clear with her.. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand.. kids are amazingly resiliant.. she will strugggle but she will deal. have faith
"
if i let her call me mommy then i'll have to discuss it with my bro and older sister.
IDK i guess i have agood 5 years before i have to tell her
"sha hon, from a social work point of view.. just be honest.. explain who you are and be clear with her.. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand.. kids are amazingly resiliant.. she will strugggle but she will deal. have faith
"sha hon, from a social work point of view.. just be honest.. explain who you are and be clear with her.. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand.. kids are amazingly resiliant.. she will strugggle but she will deal. have faith
"
someone agreed with what I said :D"
Mmm, nope.
Mistress Redhead said:
. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand..
"sha hon, from a social work point of view.. just be honest.. explain who you are and be clear with her.. its better you tell her when seh old enough to understand.. kids are amazingly resiliant.. she will strugggle but she will deal. have faith
"
if i let her call me mommy then i'll have to discuss it with my bro and older sister.
IDK i guess i have agood 5 years before i have to tell her"
"I've been raising my two year old sister for a year now and she calls me Mommy,
i'm confused on how to address the whole i'm not your mommy thing..... help^^"
Well, let her be for now. Wait until she older and tell the true, that your mom has pass way and to do her best to honor her will. To do her best so that here mom time was not wasted. Heck that what I'm doing, my dad pass way and I'm doing my best to show that his did not waste is time.
"U sure you wanna take advice from people on a comicbook website? Whats a mommy is a matter of opinion (to me anyway). I was raised for the most part by my grandparents and have always called my grandma, mom. You say your raising her, to me it sounds like you are her mom. Thats my two cents"
a 2 year old is just starting to speak full sentences let alone understand about death and what not.... like i getting them to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone understand the realities of life....
"a 2 year old is just starting to speak full sentences let alone understand about death and what not.... like i getting them to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone understand the realities of life...."
"a 2 year old is just starting to speak full sentences let alone understand about death and what not.... like i getting them to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone understand the realities of life...."
that's a load of crap, have you ever met a 2 year old? I have known too quite well and death is a simple concept for them actually
"a 2 year old is just starting to speak full sentences let alone understand about death and what not.... like i getting them to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone understand the realities of life...."
that's a load of crap, have you ever met a 2 year old? I have known too quite well and death is a simple concept for them actually"
"a 2 year old is just starting to speak full sentences let alone understand about death and what not.... like i getting them to understand what a toilet is for is hard enough let alone understand the realities of life...."
that's a load of crap, have you ever met a 2 year old? I have known too quite well and death is a simple concept for them actually"
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