JoyGirl helped me reconcile some issues i had. This conversation was over a while ago. It is no longer in-the-moment. Though, my meaning is fairly obvious.
@nerdork: It's maybe not as obvious as you see it as. In the situation I was talking about, the person sees "the illness" as a reason to seek "a cure". I don't get how it's counterintuitive to think that way if they're getting the help they need.
All i will say in response, and please drop it from here on out, is that i feel very bad for your friend. This person receives terrible external, or very little, support to feel that their situation is a disease/illness. No person with healthy support would call it a disease/illness, but rather an issue they can work on.
Other than that...stop PM'ing me. This is getting incredulous at this point.
@nerdork: I'll make this my last comment in our conversation then.
You don't know my friend, or what support they get, and peoples thoughts and opinions will be different from person to person, so I don't think you should be suggesting that they or there loved ones are behaving incorrectly.
You want my opinion. Talk to people about it and by people I don't mean us hear on comicvine. Talk to your family and friends, if you are confused about this stuff your family and friend will be able to help you make more sence of your situation.
Well ...it is not a real problem. But thinking at it as if it is a problem can render it as such. You can surely talk with someone, your school has probably some psychologist you can talk too. But sure as hell there is nothing wrong with you it doesn't matter if this is just a phase or not.
You want my opinion. Talk to people about it and by people I don't mean us hear on comicvine. Talk to your family and friends, if you are confused about this stuff your family and friend will be able to help you make more sense of your situation.
That's one of the biggest issues with being LGBT is that talking to your friends and family usually isn't an option. With religion alive and well, a lot of newbies are still way too tender with their identity to have the word "abomination" tossed at them, among other possibilities. I've seen a lot of trans people (gays less so) come out or even start mentally transitioning online, where they have a place that they can actually be and eventually "find" themselves and the way they want to act.
It's not a perfect system but it's something to remember before you push someone away who's confused or trying to find themselves. Though I will agree, ComicVine is not the best place. There are a good deal of hotlines and websites specifically for transpeople.
@reaperonyx: I actually went through a phase for quite awhile, from around 6 years old to 18, and I hid my feelings behind my masculine self, such as doing wrestling (state qualifier 285 lb bracket), and varsity football district champ. I am still not totally out of it, but the realty of me transitioning just isn't there, 285 lb body builder, hardly any fat, and about as graceful or pretty (feminine wise) as a big hairy ravenous bear in Victoria secret.
@joygirl: I'm Not an LGBT so I have no real helpful advise for any situation like it but I know asking a stranger on the Internet is a ferry short term solution and in the end it probely does not help you out.
@joygirl: I'm Not an LGBT so I have no real helpful advise for any situation like it but I know asking a stranger on the Internet is a ferry short term solution and in the end it probely does not help you out.
It certainly is, and I do agree with you. Just saw that and noted that, while coming to a comic site is not a good fix, turning to one's family and friends is an even worse one.
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