I believe that if a woman wants to work outside of the home then that is fine.
I personally don't feel comfortable relying on another person for everything. I don't want to ask if i can buy something. I like to make my own decisions with my own money. I like to be able to buy my children things that they need and want. I like to make sure bills are taken care of.
Mothers are people too. They have goals just like other people. Growing up as a little girl we say we want to be this when we grow up...well just because you want to be something doesn't mean you can't be a mom too.
You have to be a good balancer.
And by the mom and the dad working different shifts when will they have time for each other. That isn't going to make for a nice home life in the end.
And you never know maybe they do need two incomes. I mean what if the man just doesn't have a job making that much money. Is he suppose to get two jobs just so mom can stay home. What if the women makes way more money...what if they need both or the mom needs to work in order for things to be good.
Having a job gives me a sense of control. I can do what I want with my money without having to ask.
With this woman who was murdered..it is her choice if she wanted to go to work. Maybe she was working towards a job that wouldn't have long hours...but you have to make a sacrifice in order to get where you want to be. Maybe inthe end she would be able to spend more time with her kids.
But the way you feel, you must have a man who makes good enough money to allow you to stay home. and if a sitter or grandparent can do it better than dad whatis the problem?