This is mainly about the dealings with a female assistant manager somewhere along her late fifties who has periodically harassed me throughout the years, mostly sexual in nature. Most of the male co-workers who witnessed it think it's funny based on my past relationships with an older woman and that it's "every man's dream," when in fact it's a turn-off in a purely business sense. Every direction, task and grueling workday has been nothing more than a complete waste of time. In a sense that if I showed up to work to do my job and it wasn't deemed important enough to fulfill every obligation, rather questions about my personal life and her constantly filling me in on how her ex-husband is addicted to drugs (and I care, I really do) superseding anything business-like and professional.
I don't think it's flattering so much as despicable, because it affects my closest co-workers as well. Not so much their connection to me, but her complete disregard for foreign and uneducated people, as she puts it. But being that English is their second language and that my shying away from conversation with the manager puts her off, she naturally singles them out.
My first example would be my Albanian friend, who is in his forties and has had extensive surgery on his brain (in the past year), works one of the largest departments which is basically a total of eight hours of work, but he has to move on to three other departments whereas the sycophant on his off days works his department for a total of eight hours without touching the excesses. Sometimes the invalid never finishes one department. Now, naturally, I don't necessarily think of it as bigotry on her part. The flattery from the lesser worker might strike a chord with the assistant, being that she has no respect in her home life (again, I don't know why female managers tell me anything) and so he is entitled to stay in one area and bring freight that I cannot verify. I don't associate with lazy people or speak to them, except that they should hurry up or work more efficiently. I never tell my Albanian friend anything of the sort.
The second example would be my Mexican friend. I trained her in every department, in terms of time efficiency and she will occasionally help with the audits. There used to be a saying in the company I work for: "going above and beyond your job description," in which case, she fits the mold. Her accent and almost adorable demeanor has plagued her with rumors of being "trash" and a "slut," usually started by a CSM whose mannerisms border on tweaker or speedfreak. Again, the assistant manager is heavily involved in all things CSM, going above and beyond her scope of understanding to write her up for hearsay, supposed rumors of having intercourse with everyone (including me) in her car on the parking lot and deviating truths to bring her closer to the brink of tears. If I know my friend well enough, being caught between two job codes, a set of rumors, I can understand her frustrations just fine. I wouldn't know how to react once being brought into the office to discuss a fantasy social life, either. On top of that, she has seizures. The assistant and store manager simply asked her, "What makes you think customers care if you have seizures?"
Now I know all these things aren't completely related, but it seems even my ex-girlfriend is bearing the blunt harshness of the assistant manager's myopic skills of deduction, practically singled out in terms of time efficiency and lax communication skills. In fact, up to this point she has gotten an exceeds on all of her evaluations. Now that I'm no longer around, the former department manager of electronics has moved up to support manager in the store, basically tarnishing her reputation by comparing her to someone who only partially fills her area on her off days, then proceeds to stress her out every time he walks by saying she has only an hour left after bugging her for the first thirty minutes of the night. She called me in tears asking me what I think she should do and I simply told her to document everything, grow a backbone or they would trample her to death.
In my case, I've had dealings with all types of bad, awful people in the entire time I've been working. Most people don't realize it, but showing up, making up a bunch of nonsense and filling the void isn't an exact science, so moving up the chain of command and being promoted isn't actually a feat. With that said, what gives anyone the right to put themselves above all others for the sake of looking good, without the merit, the leadership skills and common decency everyone preaches? Why should I have to worry about my job because some minx of an assistant has to get laid on company time? that she would be the least of my priorities and knowing this, why does she persist in it at all? This is just one example of the female assistant managerial training at its finest. The rest may not be as vindictive, but they are nevertheless direct and lacking in appeal. I only know from experience that only seven out of eight assistants rarely take their training to heart, since nearly all of them have some type of blackmail or fear by at least three of the associates. Their stories are just as sickening. The ones who usually give into the playful nature of these disgusting people are usually spent in two years time, meaning they have practically nothing more to offer.
I recently started documenting everything that is said to me by any managers. I keep my mouth shut, occasionally lower tempers with a quick joke or two and try my hardest to guide people in a better direction, clear of getting themselves fired because prejudice and sexual harassment rule over policy itself. Of course, policy is just a means to protect higher-ups from the workers and not the other way around. I wish I could change things.
Sexual harassment at its finest.
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LMAO
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