I need serious advice. Can't take this anymore

I'm tired of my mom treating me like a freaking kid. I've been invited to so many parties, hangouts, etc. from people at school. I tell her can I go? And she always tells me, "I gotta know what type of people they are, where the party is going to be at, and I have to take you myself and pick you up." I'm freaking 17, what the hell. That's embaressing, the rest of my friends parents don't make a huge deal about it, their friends give them rides, and they go have fun. I hate it, because I just wanna have freedom like the rest of my peers and have fun, just every teenager should. How do I get out of my moms "grip"? Help me please.

You turn 18.

No one invites me to any parties......

In any case, don't we have a thread for this by ILS?

@mysticmedivh: but theirs gonna be an awesome Halloween party tomorrow and it's gonna be epic bro. EVERYONE from school is going. Its gonna be live as hell

I know how you feel bro. This one time my mom didn't buy a Pokémon game I really wanted.

You live in her house. Game over.

@sophia89: score!

See OP, loop hole! Start the fire in a back bedroom and be sure to remove battery power to all alarms before.

Damnit. I thought I was gonna get helpful answers.

Her house, her rules hombre. If you don't like it you have a year to go and then you'll be your own man who can live on your own and dictate your own rules. If it's any consolation in 10 years, it most likely won't matter to you anyway.

My mom's the same way.

And i'm glad. Because it shows that she cares for me too much to let me loose.

Beata

you can't make her do anything or think a certain way, she does want to protect you, but sheltering you like that isn't always the best

but there still isn't anything you can really do about it, just be a mopey angry teen

@the_tree: I'm going to try and lie. Ima tell her that I'm going to spend the night at my friends house, but we're really going to the effin party

@xxedward_kenwayxx: What if she calls the mother of your friend?

Beata

@xxedward_kenwayxx: bad idea

@sophia89: Bahahahaha!

@spidey_jackson: bro, his mom is cool as hell. She allows him to do certain things, because she aknowledges that she can't stop someone from wanting to do something, but she tries her best to educate him on how to handle certain situations. But my mom treats like a freaking CHILD!!

@hayden86: Laughs at Hayden laughing at Sophia with anime guy and they are both laughing at Edward who is being sad while wathing tv of spongebob watching tv of batman watching bane break his back then Edwards mother hugs them all :) happy ending

Damn...Me 10 years ago.

@xxedward_kenwayxx: Any mom who would do such a thing has questionable parenting skills.

Look, i know it sucks. But going against your mother won't make the situation better. Just swallow your pride and let mom give you a lift.

Beata

@spidey_jackson: it's not pride, it's just me wanting to have a bit of freedom.

I think you should show her you're a trustworthy son. Get good grades, help around the house, have some extra-curricular activities. I think your parents won't mind where you're going and how as long as they trust you. It worked for me at least.

@xxedward_kenwayxx: Have you given her reasons not to trust you?

Beata

@xxedward_kenwayxx: Two of my kids have almost your age. Let me tell you that if you lie like that you may don't like the consequences of a parent not trusting you anymore.

You are 17. If you are mature enough to go out to a party (in your opinion), win your case in a rational argument with your mom.

You lie and it's an all other game.

"the effin party" bruh cx

I've actually done this.

@averywetfrog: that's not the point, the point is that she's treating me like a 6 year old. I don't get it. She's always saying I spend to much time inside, and now that I want to go out and have fun she won't let me.

God darn rookie. Wait until she tucks you in and meet a ride down the block. Or, if your mother happens to be a fan of tea or milk, just drop about three tylenol pms in, if you don't crush them, wait about ten minutes to take her her beverage . Make sure though that you offer her the drink 30 minutes before you leave. She will be out like a light.

@xxedward_kenwayxx: just sit and spin. You are almost out of high school. Then you can enjoy all the "freedom " you want ! You can smoke liquor and sip on that green all day.

If you wanna do what you want to do, go live somewhere else. And honestly dude, you are making it seem like your parents are in the right 100%. They are offering you a lift. If you don't want them to drive you, sneak out of the house a few hours early and walk it. If it is too far, too bad.

Let me ask you a question: Are there going to be drugs? Alcohol? Sex? Because a lot of parties have those and those are illegal (okay, sex isn't but many parents are like that) so I completely understand your parents. I mean, my parents did that with everyone in my family but me yet they were VERY popular (of course in their high school everyone knew each other so in the sense EVERYONE was popular lol).

@africanwilds said:

Me only 1 year ago lol

Act mature and ye shall be treated in such a way.

In a freaking comic site.........

since it's her house it's her rules if you try convincing your mom by being mature perhaps she will let you go or just follow these other people ideas. I mean that could work too..

^Agreed. You still get to go the party. I don't really see the problem.

What's the problem? She's offering you a lift, LOL appreciate that.

I thought this was going to be a very serious thread...

my mom did the same thing at that age, but mainly because I hung out with the scum of the Earth. (Spoiler: Most of my old friends are in jail/prison)

The easiest way to get over this is to wait until college and make the same horrible mistakes the rest of made in our twenties. It should be noted your mom cares more than the other moms. This is an awesome thing because when you're in your 30s and have to travel but don't want to leave your car at the airport for a week, she'll pick you up and drive you to the airport, multiple times a year, and never ask for gas money.

@xxedward_kenwayxx: Can't blame her for trying to keep you safe. Mother's know best.

Your Mom sounds great. Good for her.

I was raised in similar circumstances, and though I did feel my mom was a tad overprotective, I never thought my mom was crazy for wanting to know where I was going and who was with me, and in retrospect, the people I knew who were raised like me turned out a lot better than the kids who were able to go wherever they chose.

You should thank God for your Mom caring enough to look out for you. It's laziness or incompetence that makes many parents so lax. I'm not saying she's handling every situation perfectly, but she's in the right ballpark.

If you truly think your Mom is unjust, sue for independence, move out on your own and find out how awesome life is without your Mom's protection. If you think your Mom is just a tad overprotective, then talk with her about it calmly stating your case and prove you can be trusted by acting maturely and staying out of trouble. If she doesn't listen, then you only have one more year to put up with your tyrant of a mother who cares enough to keep tabs on you.

@xxedward_kenwayxx: We have threads for advice. Go to one of those.