I need help

I have only one friend and I'm constantly getting rejected.

So my question is is this my fault or is the problem with society itself ?

@kgb725: getting rejected by your friend or others? is your friend a female and when you mean rejected you mean from nookie?

@boschepg: others. Male and from dating mostly

Depend on the context... Its easy to blame the lonely guy tbh.

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@kgb725: if your friend doesn't want to date you then that's normal. There is a line most take cuz once you cross it it will never be the same. Its not your fault by any means. This is how society works, if you are pretty you attract pretty. If you are outspoken or funny you don't have to be pretty. If you are neither, you need something that you do or have to make others accept you.

In the end, don't try to please others. Do what you do that you have fun with and you will come across people in your circles

Psht. I get bounced all the time.

I just flex my shit on that dance floor, and show 'em what they're missing :)

@boschepg: I'm not trying to date my friend I was just pointing out a lack of them. Im pretty funny but Im usually not given the chance to be. The things I like to do usually don't need someone else for me to have fun or meet others. I get how society works but I also feel that society is killing me emotionally

@kgb725: Maybe you just need more confidence??

@rocketraccoonthingy: That's not it

I don't have any true friends irl because most of them get really squimish or call some of my true or passionate interests weird.. we have common interests but it's like petty things that I don't really give a crap about. So I guess you're not the only one..

xoxo, -Saint Sophie

It's not your fault.

I don't know you well enough to say, but if you're in middle/highschool you've probably just been with the same kids too long and you're used to a certain mentality towards yourself. My advise would be find a new hobby or something and introduce yourself to the new people with confidence.

If you need more advice just shoot me a pm. I've been out of highschool for a few years now and with hindsight and personal experience I think I could help you out.

@kgb725:

Maybe you're trying harder.

My advice : Try being happy alone, then let people come at you.

Maybe you just don't know how to socialize correctly with people?

I think you might want to take a retrospective look at yourself here. Why do you only have one friend and why are you rejected? Could it be something in your demeanor? Society as a whole isn't going to just abandon you because it's society.

@the_caped_crusader:

I've said this once, and I'll say it again:

YOU ARE NOT ROBIN WILLIAMS!

These words hurt now, but only by getting the help you need can we get you (mentally) healthy again.

@noone301994: I think that factors in as well I'm autistic or borderline

Wrong person, buddy.

@the_caped_crusader: Lol who is that guy

@the_caped_crusader:

Nope, you typed:

"it's not your fault"

Post #11.

My post was in reference to the film "Good Will Hunting" where Robin Williams repeatedly uses the line "It's not your fault" to Matt Damon.

I didn't realise I'd have to explain it since it's such a well known quote, in such a well known film.

...Okay?

Well all of that seemed painfully awkward.

You have only one friend? How long? Why is this person your friend? Under what circumstances did you meet? Is he secretly threatening to kill every woman you meet behind your back so he can have you all to himself?

Joking aside, if you keep meeting women that are rejecting you, then you're not really looking at the right spaces or you're looking at the wrong women. People say there's no such thing as a "type" of woman that'll be attracted to a guy, but there most definitely is.

Whether you believe me on that subject or not, the best thing to do to meet new friends/women? Expand your social circles. Meet new people, spend some time with them, they'll introduce you to more people and your selection pool will expand drastically. It's a lot more work to maintain all those connections, but it's worth it. Unless you find out some of them were bad ideas, in which case don't waste your time, just move along and meet more people.

Cheerio.

@kgb725: If that's the case I think you can go to socialization sessions or something.

@candle_jack:

That's how I roll.