Have you grown apart from a good friend?

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I'm near the end of college and that's all well and good. But as the years have passed the further apart I've grown from my buds from high school. Now that it's the summer I've been able to see a bunch of friends from high school, but I started to realize we just don't get along like we used to. Although we were great friends years back we now seem to have differences that we just cannot get passed. My question is, have you ever grown apart from a friend? How did you deal with it, try to just act as if the person no longer exists and look toward making new friends or do you try and keep that person in your life due to good memories, even though you're no longer compatible?
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#1  Edited By _Sojourn_

It is only natural... As you grow older, your thought patters elevate as well.. 
 
What I would be worried about is if you got along swimmingly... That means you would have stayed in the same mind set... 

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#3  Edited By Green Skin

Just go make new friends that you are more compatible with, and still hang out with your old friends every once and awhile to catch up.

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#4  Edited By turoksonofstone

A true friend cannot be lost through the passage of time.

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#5  Edited By BlazeEmblem

Yeah ive grown apart from all of my friends

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#6  Edited By PowerHerc

Sadly, yes. I never would've thought it could turn out this way but, as in many cases before mine, it has.

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#7  Edited By Izaiah

More often than I'd like.

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#8  Edited By King_Saturn
yeah it happens... 
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#9  Edited By Green Skin
@turoksonofstone said:
A true friend cannot be lost through the passage of time.
Wise words.
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#10  Edited By ssejllenrad

Friends will be friends. Growing apart can't be helped since you have your own lives to attend to. And how you develop yourself and their selves would be different.
 
As for how should you cope? True friendship is something experienced through good and bad. It requires some sacrifice. If you can adjust yourself for your friends without compromising who you really are and the other way round is also true, then the friendship is meant to be. If that is not the case then I believe you can just let go. Just my 2 cents.

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#11  Edited By Amazingoctus

No. I remember someone/something saying "A true friend never says goodbye."
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#12  Edited By Darkseid Elite
@turoksonofstone said:


                    A true friend cannot be lost through the passage of time.

                   

               
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#13  Edited By TheCerealKillz
@turoksonofstone said:
A true friend cannot be lost through the passage of time.
This
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#14  Edited By difficlus
@King Saturn said:
yeah it happens... 
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#15  Edited By Sylver

I know the feeling. Alot of times, going off to college lets you develop your own person, and that can be different from how you felt in high school.  And other times, the friends are the ones who change.  It's not your fault if they do, especially if it's for the worse.  Just be friendly to them...that's all you can do.  I'm going through alot of this myself right now, I'm glad you made this blog.  Just got to press on and do your best.  As for myself, I found myself growing very close to my new roomate...but very far apart from my bff in high school.  She'd been getting into alot of crap and just became a very angry person...  I'm still her friend, and I'll talk to her, but we're not best buds anymore. It happens...but I'm glad I have my new friend from college.

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#16  Edited By Dreadmaster

Who hasn't experienced this?

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Depends on your definition of fried. I've known a lot of acquaintances in my life. But very few that I would actually consider friends. To me a friend is just like a brother/sister. To me they are blood. It's not a word I throw around casually. The same goes for love, or any swear.

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#18  Edited By JediXMan  Moderator

I have grown apart from many acquaintances that I had in my youth. That's life.

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It happens. Generally when people drift apart there are no hard feelings though. So it's not like you go from being friends to enemies. Just from being really good friends to acquaintances with a lot of history.

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#20  Edited By Lance Uppercut

No. Not a real friend, anyway. Casual perhaps. Someone I thought was a friend. But never anyone I didn't truly want to drift apart from. 

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#21  Edited By rogue_mar1e

Yeah ... she still thinks we're best friends but we're really not. Not to me anyways.

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#22  Edited By ragdollpurps

What's a good friend?

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#23  Edited By Aiden Cross

Well, i don't see everyone that often anymore. But i know that if i needed help they'd be there for me =)
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#24  Edited By Joesoef95

No. At least not yet. But I hope it won't happen to me, knowing how often it does :(

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#25  Edited By Calvin
@Prince CortSether: Sure it happen.  
 
 - Never ignore someone. Always say hi to them and ask them how they are. Both you and your old buddies will feel good about it.   

 - Unfortunately you will find out that you just hang with some people because you were collegues, not really friends. It's ok, there's nothing wrong with that. However you might feel that you really had a strong connection to some few people. You might even feel the same friendship for them now, and vice-verse. Those few people that you still deeply care about, hang on to them. Even if both drift away, and now have different carrers and moved to different places, it will not matter. Sometimes just have a cup of coffee in the vacations, or a web chat. It's nice. 


Last week I unexpectedly found a school buddy in a chinese restaurant. He's living in another country.  

I'm sure that just like me and my friend, you'll find out you still have much in common. At least some nostalgic memories!!!
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#26  Edited By ARMIV

I've drifted from a few, but we usually kinda come back into our original circles. The one friend I really don't want to loose though is the one I can't see at all. I've seen her...twice this entire year, and both times weren't even a minute. She's the one I don't want to drift away from, but I cannot do anything about this... 
 
...and it makes me so f-cking angry every time I think about this.

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#27  Edited By Samimista

Sadly yes quite a few but that's the way life is as time goes by things change even though we may not like the changes we just have to accept them.

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#28  Edited By progenitorigin

Unfortunately, just recently my best friend and I have grown apart, he's still about partying, i'm not, that, combined with disrespect shown for my family has made us grow apart even more.  I guess it happens.
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#29  Edited By Grand Ninja

As long as they love comics like you, you will always be friends.... Or rivals lol

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Yeah, I went back home once and I saw a friend at Wal-Mart and after the 'how are you doing?' We really didn't know what to talk about. It was kinda awkward.