Have you grown apart from a good friend?
Just go make new friends that you are more compatible with, and still hang out with your old friends every once and awhile to catch up.
Friends will be friends. Growing apart can't be helped since you have your own lives to attend to. And how you develop yourself and their selves would be different.
As for how should you cope? True friendship is something experienced through good and bad. It requires some sacrifice. If you can adjust yourself for your friends without compromising who you really are and the other way round is also true, then the friendship is meant to be. If that is not the case then I believe you can just let go. Just my 2 cents.
I know the feeling. Alot of times, going off to college lets you develop your own person, and that can be different from how you felt in high school. And other times, the friends are the ones who change. It's not your fault if they do, especially if it's for the worse. Just be friendly to them...that's all you can do. I'm going through alot of this myself right now, I'm glad you made this blog. Just got to press on and do your best. As for myself, I found myself growing very close to my new roomate...but very far apart from my bff in high school. She'd been getting into alot of crap and just became a very angry person... I'm still her friend, and I'll talk to her, but we're not best buds anymore. It happens...but I'm glad I have my new friend from college.
Depends on your definition of fried. I've known a lot of acquaintances in my life. But very few that I would actually consider friends. To me a friend is just like a brother/sister. To me they are blood. It's not a word I throw around casually. The same goes for love, or any swear.
It happens. Generally when people drift apart there are no hard feelings though. So it's not like you go from being friends to enemies. Just from being really good friends to acquaintances with a lot of history.
No. Not a real friend, anyway. Casual perhaps. Someone I thought was a friend. But never anyone I didn't truly want to drift apart from.
Well, i don't see everyone that often anymore. But i know that if i needed help they'd be there for me =)
- Never ignore someone. Always say hi to them and ask them how they are. Both you and your old buddies will feel good about it.
- Unfortunately you will find out that you just hang with some people because you were collegues, not really friends. It's ok, there's nothing wrong with that. However you might feel that you really had a strong connection to some few people. You might even feel the same friendship for them now, and vice-verse. Those few people that you still deeply care about, hang on to them. Even if both drift away, and now have different carrers and moved to different places, it will not matter. Sometimes just have a cup of coffee in the vacations, or a web chat. It's nice.
Last week I unexpectedly found a school buddy in a chinese restaurant. He's living in another country.
I'm sure that just like me and my friend, you'll find out you still have much in common. At least some nostalgic memories!!!
I've drifted from a few, but we usually kinda come back into our original circles. The one friend I really don't want to loose though is the one I can't see at all. I've seen her...twice this entire year, and both times weren't even a minute. She's the one I don't want to drift away from, but I cannot do anything about this...
...and it makes me so f-cking angry every time I think about this.
Unfortunately, just recently my best friend and I have grown apart, he's still about partying, i'm not, that, combined with disrespect shown for my family has made us grow apart even more. I guess it happens.
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