Poll Has your father ever hugged you? (133 votes)
Please, take this seriously. No Batman-orphan jokes.
This thread is meant to be serious.
Please, take this seriously. No Batman-orphan jokes.
This thread is meant to be serious.
@stormdriven: We could do one thread with a weekly update or make a new thread each week?
@The_Deathstroker: I guess we should wait to see how a first one would turn out.
@stormdriven: True. We can talk more tomorrow. I'm going to sleep.
@The_Deathstroker: Alright, cool
Hard to say. I haven't even seen the dude in 25 years. Maybe he hugged me at some point those first few years. Still I voted no.
@The_Deathstroker: cv soap opera..
My dad hugged me once...that was the last day I respected my dad. =D
But yes, he does hug me, but I don't like it
I have issues with opening up, letting people in and creating emotional bonds.
My dad was in and out of my life, he was missing from 7-14 when I was becoming awkward and recluse. When he met me, he hugged me, but I don't like when people hug me. He never picked up on the "I don't like when people hug me" thing though.
I love giving hugs when I initiate the hug, I just don't like when people initiate the hug
I don't remember him ever hugging me...I don't know if I'd ever want him to.
He probably did at some point.
@thatguywithheadphones: Same. Word for word, even the age. I think it's pretty f%ckin' sad that we're feeling privileged just because our dads hugged us. I guess there are a lot of ineffectual fathers out there.
@princearagorn1: Oh, you like?
@stormdriven: PM?
@jaken7: Yeah, it's a real thing. My dad didn't walk out on me, but I doubt I'd call him a real father. It's not as black an white as it seems.
@The_Deathstroker: Why make this thread then? If it isn't black and white, then it's obviously a unique scenario. Your relationship (or lack therof) with your dad is a special case. So why ask others?
@jaken7: To see if and how many others live under the same conditions. It's not black and white in the sense that: A father hugs you unless he's a walk-out father. There are non-walk-out fathers that don't hug their children. That's the grey area. It's not a special case, it seems a few on here non-walk-out fathers that didn't hug them as well. I asked others to see if anyone else had a similar case.
@The_Deathstroker: You probably wrote that before reading my response in our PM, but I'm also aware of bad fathers and strict military ones never hugging or showing their love for their children. Any other case though, and yes. It's unique.
@jaken7: Yeah, I did.
Well, do you at least see why I made the thread then? To see if it was truly unique.
@The_Deathstroker: I suppose, but part of me feels like you already knew that it was, honey bear. :/
Sorry about that by the way.
#gettin'_personal_up_in_here
Once and we both hated it. You don't need all that touchy feely crap to show affection. Sure my dad was pretty shitty to me when he was still drinking but now our relationship is fine without all that emotional bulls**t that the TV keeps telling everyone they need.
@jaken7: A part of me knew it. A part of me didn't want to know for sure.
I don't really think there's anything that really needs an apology. There's no way you could've known.
#yep
@joshmightbe: Pfft. You couldn't even type that out without sounding insecure about your relationship with your father. Don't act like it's just the crazy media over blowing the importance of parental affection.
@jaken7: I'm not insecure about my relationship with my father, just honest. Not everybody needs to be emotionally validated every ten seconds like this participation trophy culture claims.
@joshmightbe: Oh jesus. Getting a hug from your dad is not perpetuating the "everybody's a winner" mentality of today's society. It's normal and healthy.
@jaken7: No its normal for you, not everyone feels that way. Some people don't like or need a lot of physical contact. My dad showed his affection by helping to keep me alive long enough to reach adulthood, and giving me a healthy sense of boundaries that kept me in school and out of jail.
@joshmightbe: I know it's really important for you to come off as tough and manly in this exchange, so I'll let you have this. Just don't ever talk to a psychologist about the importance of physical affirmation during childhood, because you might not get the answer you wanted.
@jaken7: Not trying to sound tough, and I'm not saying its wrong or right for everyone, just saying its not for everyone. Why is it so damn hard for people to accept that not everyone is the same as them?
@dccomicsrule2011: How so?
@colliderz: If you're joking it's not funny. If you're serious, most of us (I can't speak for everyone) aren't just trying to be manly or be full of bravado, it's just how it is.
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