Don't know what to say to her. - Off-Topic

Posted by MonsterStomp (2690 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

I don't know. I've seen her everyday for the past 7 months catching the same 540 bus, it just seems ridiculous that I havn't actually spoken to her. Sure we acknowledge eachother with a smile or a head nod, but its not enough. I guess I never really built up the courage to talk to her when about 3 or 4 friends are surrounding her. I'm always thinking of how I can get her seperated from them. The only time when she's actually alone at the bus stop is in the afternoons, but thats a rarity, and when she is there I always blow that good 15 minutes before she leaves.

On top of that I wouldn't even know what to say or what she'd say. I know we have to take a leap of faith sometime in our life but I'm scared of heights. Should I just say "Hi" and take it slowly from there. Just don't know what to say to her. I mean what if she had a boyfriend? I don't know if I could take that rejection. I've never been rejected before, girls are always asking me out.

#1 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (14688 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

Have you seen The Adjustment Bureau?

#2 Posted by wildvine (3258 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp Say "Hi". Ad lib from there. Go get'em tiger.

#3 Posted by Delphic (993 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: Really dude all you can do is just go for it. Sitting around thinking about it, worrying about rejection, and doing nothing but letting her keep walking by will never get you the girl. If you keep following that plan you're never even going to have a chance. How is she going to know you're interested if you don't even make the effort? Go out on a limb, step out of your comfort zone, and just give it a shot. If she rejects the offer so what, you'll survive. I can promise you that.

#4 Posted by sesquipedalophobe (4463 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

Just say this. "So anyway I says to Mabel, I says, 'Of course you're tall: you're a giraffe.' " She will love you forever.

#5 Posted by WhiteSGPlayer (166 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

Go up to her and say "Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

/jokeolderthanjesus

#6 Posted by Mattersuit (3573 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: just do what I do. "Hey, wanna go get a drink sometime? Yeah? Great! I'll pick you up at nine."

#7 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (14688 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@Mattersuit: It depends on what her personality is. I used to do that actually. Just go up to girls and politely and confidently get directly to the point. By that I mean saying something like. "Let's do something". "Let's go get some coffee." "Let's go catch a flick." Just be prepared for half and half rejection if you go that route lol.

#8 Posted by Mattersuit (3573 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@Glitch_Spawn: You waited for an answer? Mistake number 1.

#9 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (14688 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@Mattersuit: There is class and then there is arrogance :P

#10 Posted by Mattersuit (3573 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@Glitch_Spawn: Where I come from, cocky bastards get the chicks. It's all about getting there first. It's a tried and tested method, and it works.

#11 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (14688 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@Mattersuit: Those guys get girls but they get the intelligently devoid ones.

#12 Edited by sesquipedalophobe (4463 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

Cross your eyes and tell her that you can't take your eye off of her blurry sister,

Or go up to her and say very shy-like "I don't normally do this, but..." and throw yourself against the trash can.

#13 Posted by wildvine (3258 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@sesquipedalophobe said:

Or go up to her and say very shy-like "I don't normally do this, but..." and throw yourself against the trash can.

Lol.

#14 Posted by CapFanboy (4165 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@WhiteSGPlayer said:

Go up to her and say "Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"
/jokeolderthanjesus

/jokeusedbyjesus

@Mattersuit said:

@Glitch_Spawn: Where I come from, cocky bastards get the chicks. It's all about getting there first. It's a tried and tested method, and it works.

All women from where you live are like that? I don't think I could handle that, I need variety.

#15 Posted by fesak (6766 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

Sing all of Bohemian Rhapsody

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#16 Posted by Samimista (12077 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@sesquipedalophobe said:

Just say this. "So anyway I says to Mabel, I says, 'Of course you're tall: you're a giraffe.' " She will love you forever.

Lol! I always love your posts. xD She'll love you even more if you say you're a giraffe part dalmatian if you have spots on!

#17 Posted by FLCL1 (9581 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

dont listen to these guys OP, follow my steps to the tee;

1)buy a orange

2)start eating the orange on the bus, dont forget to offer her some.

3)after you are done pick up the orange peels and rub them all over your body (it helps if your shirt is off), make sure she watches

4) proceed to shove the peels down your pants (front side) by this time she will be uncomfortable.

5)hold your head down to your chest while keeping eye contact with your love

6)hold your arms out and wiggle them like a snake, while saying, "wolololololololololo" in a low tone

7)raise your voice every second as a tribute to the mayans

8)she should run in fears around this time, dont forget to chase her while yelling, "WOLOLOLOLOLOLOLO"

9)go home, wait for her to confess your love

thank me later

#18 Posted by TheCannon (14191 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

I'd just say "Hi, how are you?" or something like that. Maybe "My name is John" or something.

Or, just do the direct approach. Say "So, do you enjoy comic books?" :P

#19 Posted by minigunman123 (3100 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@Glitch_Spawn said:

Have you seen The Adjustment Bureau?

.. I was thinking the same thing O_O

#20 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (14688 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@minigunman123 said:

@Glitch_Spawn said:
Have you seen The Adjustment Bureau?
.. I was thinking the same thing O_O

lol it just sounded similar

#21 Posted by Joygirl (6086 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: Compliment an item she's wearing. Be creative and sincere -- don't say "I like your hair" because you will seem desperate to compliment. Don't say "I like your shirt" because you will seem boring and insincere. Say "I like your earrings" and chances are she will be much more receptive to talking to you. It shows that you are friendly and interested but not that you are a desperate stalking loser.

#22 Posted by YoungJustice (5661 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

Someone post the Jenna Marbles video!

#23 Posted by The Stegman (12860 posts) - 5 months, 6 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: I'm in the same boat sort of. I'm in college and I've been sitting next to a girl I have fancied for quite some time now, the semester is over, but I should see her again next semester because we are supposed to be in the same class. We're on friendly terms, we have tons in common, both like the same movies, comics, tv shows, and I personally would like it to develop into more, but I don't exactly know if she feels the same way. Next semester, I WILL talk to her more, and take the leap, I suggest you do the same with your mystery bus girl.

#24 Posted by Nefarious (16243 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

More of these "love threads"? Say something from the buttom of your heart.

#25 Posted by Mattersuit (3573 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@Glitch_Spawn said:

@Mattersuit: Those guys get girls but they get the intelligently devoid ones.

That's a matter of some debate. It's working well on university chicks at the minute.

@CapFanboy said:

@Mattersuit said:
@Glitch_Spawn: Where I come from, cocky bastards get the chicks. It's all about getting there first. It's a tried and tested method, and it works.
All women from where you live are like that? I don't think I could handle that, I need variety.

Most of 'em, yep.

#26 Posted by Deranged Midget (12857 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

To put it simply mate, playing it safely will never get you anywhere. You can wish it to happen all the time, but when it comes down to it, you have to make that move, to say something. Take a risk for once, you'll never find out anything if you don't try. And yes, you're in the stage when you're constantly over-thinking things right now. You're wondering what to say when you get to that stage, what will happen, how she will react, etc -- but honestly mate, just let it happen! Don't stress on it, let it progress fluidly, it will come naturally! Everyone is perhaps afraid or nervous of that first step but once you accomplish it, once you get past it, then it's just a matter of progression, patience and how willing you are to take it further.

Hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck! :)

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#27 Posted by Gambler (80650 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: Never worry about whether a woman has a boyfriend or not and in all seriousness, get out of your head. You're thinking to much and all your accomplishing is getting in your own way. Man up son. You already said you've exchanged smiles and head nods. So guess what, you're already halfway there. The fact that she's with some friends is a bonus. Simply walk over, casually smile and nod to her friends, then say, "Whats up, my name is --------, I've seen you here a couple times before and was just wondering if maybe you'd like to get some coffee sometime (doesnt have to be coffee its arbitrary really). And then whatever happens happens. Or you could, you know, continue to be that creepy guy at the bus stop who's been smiling and head nodding for the last 7months ;P

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#28 Posted by MonsterStomp (2690 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

I said "Hey" to her yesterday. She smiled and said "Hi" back. I choked up, but I didn't let her see it. LOL. Aww man I'm so bad at this.

@Gambler: @Deranged Midget: @Nefarious: @The Stegman: @Joygirl: Cheers guys. Most helpful. (No sarcasm intended, I really appreciate the advice)

#29 Edited by thespideyguy (1439 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

How old are you?

No matter what age say: "Hi, my name is Jerry, I couldn't help but notice that is a lovely (article of clothing you have on). She will reply, " Hi am Pam." Now sit down on the seat next to her. Name your profession and ask her hers, comment and ask questions on it. Keep it about her, and talk to her while she is alone.

#30 Posted by MonsterStomp (2690 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@thespideyguy: Turning 19. A hopeless romantic if you will. Last girlfriend was 3 years back. Why's that important?

#31 Posted by thespideyguy (1439 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp said:

@thespideyguy: Turning 19. A hopeless romantic if you will. Last girlfriend was 3 years back. Why's that important?

What is her age, are you in college, is she in college. If so talk about your schools. It is important because I can gauge good topics, for example I was talking about professions that might be to young. Is this good advice?

#32 Posted by Nefarious (16243 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: No prob, dude. Anytime you are having trouble, we have your back.

#33 Posted by MonsterStomp (2690 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@thespideyguy said:

@MonsterStomp said:
@thespideyguy: Turning 19. A hopeless romantic if you will. Last girlfriend was 3 years back. Why's that important?
What is her age, are you in college, is she in college. If so talk about your schools. It is important because I can gauge good topics, for example I was talking about professions that might be to young. Is this good advice?

Advice is appreciated man. Though I'm an apprentice, I think she's in college. Still worth a shot to talk about what we do. Thanks :)

#34 Posted by mrdecepticonleader (10311 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

Show her the album of pictures you have taken of her.

#35 Posted by tea8765 (157 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@sesquipedalophobe said:

Just say this. "So anyway I says to Mabel, I says, 'Of course you're tall: you're a giraffe.' " She will love you forever.

That made me LOL, thank you.

#36 Posted by ssejllenrad (11461 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

#37 Posted by tea8765 (157 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

It is far less important what you say than that you say something, say ANYTHING, the first thing that comes to your mind. "We've got to stop meeting like this." Just say something, SMILE, listen to her, she wants to talk, ask her to go get coffee. Good luck dude.

#38 Posted by ssejllenrad (11461 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@mrdecepticonleader said:

Show her the album of pictures you have taken of her.

This will most definitely work. Most especially if you do this after...

@WhiteSGPlayer said:

Go up to her and say "Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

#39 Posted by Target_X (368 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: Say hey to her! You can do it when alone, or when her friends are there, but doing it in front of her friends may be more daunting for you and you will have to spread the conversation out with them all. We don't like it when we're excluded from a conversation, and it looks bad on your part. Best advice I can give is to wait until she is along and just say hi. Strike up some small talk, say you've noticed her. Compliment her in graceful way, as in don't be too forward. You'll never know if you don't try! Good luck.

#40 Posted by thespideyguy (1439 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp said:

@thespideyguy said:
@MonsterStomp said:
@thespideyguy: Turning 19. A hopeless romantic if you will. Last girlfriend was 3 years back. Why's that important?
What is her age, are you in college, is she in college. If so talk about your schools. It is important because I can gauge good topics, for example I was talking about professions that might be to young. Is this good advice?
Advice is appreciated man. Though I'm an apprentice, I think she's in college. Still worth a shot to talk about what we do. Thanks :)

What are you an apprentice to.

#41 Posted by MonsterStomp (2690 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@thespideyguy: Electrician

@Target_X: Thanks alot.

@tea8765: Cheers :)

#42 Edited by Agent9149 (2841 posts) - 5 months, 5 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp:

"I see you almost everyday, yet I don't know your name. I think that should be a crime. My names ___________. What's yours?"

#43 Posted by mrdecepticonleader (10311 posts) - 5 months, 4 days ago - Show Bio

@ssejllenrad said:

@mrdecepticonleader said:
Show her the album of pictures you have taken of her.
This will most definitely work. Most especially if you do this after...
@WhiteSGPlayer said:
Go up to her and say "Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

See that's perfect who says you can't get good advice from people on here about stuff like this.

#44 Posted by thespideyguy (1439 posts) - 5 months, 4 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: That is interesting.

#45 Posted by InnerVenom123 (27523 posts) - 5 months, 4 days ago - Show Bio

"Give me your flesh, woman."

#46 Posted by Deranged Midget (12857 posts) - 5 months, 4 days ago - Show Bio

@MonsterStomp: At this point dude, try finding something the two of you could relate to. Something you could spark up a conversation with. Possibly about school, but honestly, you just have to say something mate!

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#47 Posted by GR2Blackout (2555 posts) - 5 months, 3 days ago - Show Bio

Ooo! Ooo! Say "I'm the hero Gotham deserves, but not the one it needs....", and then jump out the window and go beat up a bank robber! Do it! Do it now!

#48 Posted by Aronmorales (9329 posts) - 5 months, 3 days ago - Show Bio

There ain't much I can add to the sea of advice you've received, so all I'm gonna say is that you gain nothing from waiting and the worst she can say is "no" (or some variation of "no", but still "no" regardless).

Put yourself out there and let nothing hold you back from what could be something wonderful.