Does making eye contact matter to you?

I mean, many people tend to look at the ceiling or at something when speaking. Does it matter?

Yes.

Eh, Naah.

I like eye contact. It helps me connect with the person I'm talking to more in a sense.

Only in certain situations. :)

Well, avoiding it specifically is a little uncomfortable. I don't think I'd make a big deal out of it, haven't given it much of a thought really - but it seems it will affect how I view the person a little.

Yeah, but too much is weird, although I have to practice maintaining eye contact myself. If someone makes little eye contact or none at all. I find the person is intimidated, shy, unconfident, uncomfortable, or something like that. Someone who maintains eye contact is usually the opposite.

Yea, I make very sustained, direct eye contact when talking with people, especially waiting on customers at work. Most of them can't hold it for very long. I perfected this while I was in jail for a little bit, a lot of people there couldn't sustain eye contact for too long either lol. You can tell it kinda makes some people uncomfortable and they don't know where to look.

Only reason I started doing this was because I realized I was one of the people who was kind of uncomfortable with it.

Depends. Like @kingwillie said, if you're at work, then always make eye contact with the customer.

I've never touched my eye to someone else's. So I wouldn't say it is important.

Yes. It annoys me when i'm talking to people and they're looking at my nose or forehead. That being said, you don't have to stare directly at the person either....just keep it cool, maintain some eye contact, look away, and repeat.

Prolonged eye contact makes me very uncomfortable, and eventually I start disliking the person. Unless we are close, then it's okay. I don't like strangers looking into my eyes for prolonged times though, it feels like they are challenging me.

Yes especially with strangers or business conversations. It shows confidence and that you are listening. If you don't like eye contact you are weak!! :p

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Yes. Eye contact is everything. From meeting strangers to being intimate. "Your eyes are mirror of your soul" Didn't become a phrase for nothing. Granted if I don't care about a person I'll probably ignore them. lol

Yes, in means that I have nothing to hide.

It's very important in any kind of relationship

Just do it but be casual. It's like mumbling because you're afraid to speak aloud thinking you'll look 'stupid' but it's actually worse than being yourself.

I have mild Aspergers and find making eye contact really hard, even after training myself for years to try and overcome it I still can't really look someone in the eye for more then a minute or so.

I only use it to intimidate people.

But seriously its important in most situations.

Not really. If anything it makes me uncomfortable.

As long as it doesn't get creepy

Nope, I actively avoid it.

When I'm with a friend or friends, we're usually doing something besides talking, like watching movies, video games, driving, etc, so we don't make a lot of eye contact. Even when we are just talking, most of the time we're on our phones.

As for strangers, I don't care enough about them to look at them. I'll glance in their direction if they're talking at me, but usually stare at the ceiling.

It's usually very hard for me to do it without feeling intimidated.

It matters to other people when I don't look them in the eye, so yeah, it matters to me because I know I need to improve in this area.

It's a struggle for me because it's hard for me to think while looking at someone. I'm not sure if it's social anxiety or if it's just the way in built; but peoe think I am mysterious, threatening and shifty...which is sometimes fun but not helpful in a career setting.

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I don`t think you need to. But that doesn`t matter.

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Yup. But my gaze usually wanders around, `cause otherwise I`ll feel a bit uncomfortable. It`s that way for most personas, so I feel a bitsad `cause it`s one more thing that`s not special about me.

I´d wanna be as weird as Salvador Dali, you see. But would take too much.

depends.

I hate eye contact.

I think it's important for acknowledging someone who speacking to you and to show you aren't a pu$$y but no need for prolonged eye contact.

With friends nah not really but others yea. I knew this one guy though that stared way too much, like seriously just straight in your eyes the entire time and most people disliked him lol.

I don't like makng too much eye contact

Tremendously important to me. I have a hard time communicating without it.

Yes, in that don't do it.

Jeez, I have a hard enough time maintaining a five foot perimeter without people trying to pierce my goddamn soul.

I usually stare in between their noses

The correct technique is to look at their forehead. This gives the impression of strong eye contact without the discomfort.

making direct eye contact just feels wrong

Agreed. It triggers my "attack" instinct.

A bit, yes.

Only during sex