Do you think hitting kids is ok?

When I say hitting, I mean physical punishment like spanking with a belt, hand, etc. from the parent.

All in all, do you think putting a hand on a kid is ok?

Hell no.

No but I'm willing to make an exception for a few punk ass teen agers I know

Yes. Spankings are necessary. Belt or hand. Just don't get out of hand with it and start going crazy.

My dad would whoop me with a belt, and I tell ya, I was a damn good kid.

I think that the necessary societal reinforcement of such forms of punishment have eroded to such a degree that it is no longer effective.

No. I was never hit as a child and I like to think I turned out okay. Just take away things they care about if they act up, they'll get the message.

I'd never do, nor I ever really had a spanking, belt or other wise. i've been hit in the hand. Look I don't think it's as black and white as people put it, kids respond to different things.Abusing a child is not right no matter what.

Seems I'm alone on this boat, haha.

You're a psycho

@the_stegman: My parents beat the crap out of me and I spent most of my teen years and 20s as a wreck of a person but I believe if they'd have been more moderate (or sane) with it I'd have been Okay, I know lots of well adjusted people whose parents gave them a swat or two when they had it coming.

I think spankings are ok, but hitting/punching isn't.

No. Hitting your kids is a sign of losing self control. Not a good example for your kids. Talk to them, and take away things they care about them if they don't understand the rules.

Meh. Depending on how naughty the kid is.

I used to think yes, spanking is the right thing to do, until I did it and then I felt so awful I can't even express the gut wrenching feeling.

@joshmightbe: Well I'm not a parent, so I really can't weigh in too much on this topic, I know it must be hard to raise a child and the temptation to give them a little slap must be strong sometimes, but I see some parents go WAY overboard with it in public, slapping the kids just because they pick up something in a store. Like come on, violence shouldn't be the FIRST solution you go to.

If you mean spanking then yes

I think it's alright in moderation, when the kid's still young and rebellious. I was beaten the crap out of as a kid, but long as the parents explain to the child the error of his ways after the beating, I think it does work for most kids. Hell what do I know about parenting, but hey, I turned out alright. Pretty much once most kids hit the 13 to 14 year old mark, the physical punishment starts switching to groundings and verbal arguments.

If its this kid, then its okay.

@dragonborn_ct: Draco Crusher ?

Depends

No.

I got beat bad by my parents and it just made me angrier and they came to regret it eventually, but I do think a wakeup slap is justified in certain situations.

freaking hippies in this thread...yes...spanking a child when they've done something bad is ok...you're their parent not their buddy

I refer to the bible here "spare the rod spoil

The child" I got spankings and turned out fine. I have the conversations with my mother about how I'd rather not do it but I will refer to the wisdom of God and not my own

Spanking should be a last resort but yes it should be used. When necessary.

No spankings or whoopings, but I might employ some wrist locks or pain compliance. Just like the dog, a little flick on the nose works just fine. No marks, no damage, no continued or excessive pain and no mental trauma.

This is why the current generation is filled of brats. "NO SPANKING, IT'S HORRIBLE." Get real.

A simple spanking, with a belt or hand is fine. Hell, the kids were more in control because the teachers got to do the ruler smack to the wrist.

I got whoopins and I turned out fine.

Mmhmm. Word.

Remember me and my friends used to lay glue on our hands and let it harden, just to lessen the pain of the whipping cane.

No, my parents made a point of never hitting me and I turned out just fine.

I have to agree with you on the idea that it's not as black and white as people put it. If you weren't spanked and you turned out fine, that doesn't mean someone else who was will turn out the same. There are alot of different factors that weigh on a child's behavior.

Absolutely. Raised in a Jamaican household, I was spanked when I needed it. I wasn't hit often due to the fact that I learn quick but still. As long as it's moderation I vehemently support it.

I have no issue with disciplining children this way. I got my ass whooped plenty as a youngster. Never abused though. It may work for some and not for others. If I have children I'll probably use it as more of a last resort, verbal correction should do the trick more often than not.

If my son robbed another kid i'd do a "WHAT THE HELLS THE MATTER WITH YOU" backhand smack.

If my son is trying to go out when i said hes grounded and ignores me i'd pull him inside.

If my son had a knife and was trying to kill and said he was going to stab me "serious or out of spite" i'd punch him in the gut.

If my Daughter did any of the following, I'd give her a soft "WHAT THE HELLS THE MATTER WITH YOU" 2 finger smack, for 2 and 3 i'd put an iced cloth on the back of the neck, works like a charm for breaking up cat fights.

I wouldn't hit my child, maybe once so he doesn't turn into a pussy that flinches at pain when where playing around but i wouldn't hit him. I'd just tell him and he'll listen.

Some times.

No. I don't think hitting children makes them behave any better. You can bring a child up and do a good job without hitting them.

Nope, violent solutions are for the weak-minded and the lazy.

Oh, you mean like the generation that didn't get spanked or disciplined well?

@sideburnguru: Oh my God...sideburn I think we may agree on something!

I believe when a child turns 3yrs old you have a right to hit them in the throat or the stomach. if you old enough to talk back then you old enough to get F*cked up!!!!end quote Physical pain is a good deterrent and motivator. Ask any slave and they will agree

@sideburnguru: Whatever, I stand by what I said, will not be changing my opinion and having seen your behavior in other threads, I have no desire to debate with you as it would be a huge waste of my time. Have a nice life.

-Bernie Mac

I don't think anyone hitting anyone else is particularly ok. I'm not really sure how I'm going to cope with this if/when I become a parent, but I was spanked as a child & consider myself well-adjusted and very well-behaved, though chalk that up to great parenting.

Think I'd rather focus on being a parent instead of a disciplinarian and figure out non-violent ways to discipline my child.

@juliedc said:

Okay, I know I act like a smug rude, s.o.b. in some of them, but I'm pretty sure I acknowledge that in those threads, and I've gained mutal respect because I'm upfront when I'm about to be biased. Let's not already start to say I have such a horrible rep here.

I really respect that, and I think that's pretty cool based off your experience with it. Well played.

@juiceboks: Your jamacian too? Well I am not entirely, but my parents are. I got ass whoppings everyday with any item they could find. But that all stopped last year lol

Wasn't hit, and I turned out fine.

I couldn't imagine myself hitting my (future) kids. I have this sort of protective nature in me for kids.

Is that kid a child soldier?