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#1 Edited by Pfcoolio14 (1138 posts) - - Show Bio

When I say hitting, I mean physical punishment like spanking with a belt, hand, etc. from the parent.

All in all, do you think putting a hand on a kid is ok?

#2 Posted by The_Lunact_And_Manic (3286 posts) - - Show Bio

Hell no.

#3 Posted by joshmightbe (24689 posts) - - Show Bio

No but I'm willing to make an exception for a few punk ass teen agers I know

#4 Posted by BiteMe-Fanboy (8086 posts) - - Show Bio

Yes. Spankings are necessary. Belt or hand. Just don't get out of hand with it and start going crazy.

My dad would whoop me with a belt, and I tell ya, I was a damn good kid.

#5 Posted by kuonphobos (4904 posts) - - Show Bio

I think that the necessary societal reinforcement of such forms of punishment have eroded to such a degree that it is no longer effective.

#6 Edited by The Stegman (25972 posts) - - Show Bio

No. I was never hit as a child and I like to think I turned out okay. Just take away things they care about if they act up, they'll get the message.

#7 Edited by Fuchsia_Nightingale (10130 posts) - - Show Bio

I'd never do, nor I ever really had a spanking, belt or other wise. i've been hit in the hand. Look I don't think it's as black and white as people put it, kids respond to different things.Abusing a child is not right no matter what.

#8 Edited by BiteMe-Fanboy (8086 posts) - - Show Bio

Seems I'm alone on this boat, haha.

#9 Posted by Raw_Material (3300 posts) - - Show Bio

You're a psycho

#10 Posted by joshmightbe (24689 posts) - - Show Bio

@the_stegman: My parents beat the crap out of me and I spent most of my teen years and 20s as a wreck of a person but I believe if they'd have been more moderate (or sane) with it I'd have been Okay, I know lots of well adjusted people whose parents gave them a swat or two when they had it coming.

#11 Posted by The_Tree (7936 posts) - - Show Bio

I think spankings are ok, but hitting/punching isn't.

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#12 Edited by Wolverine08 (45538 posts) - - Show Bio

No. Hitting your kids is a sign of losing self control. Not a good example for your kids. Talk to them, and take away things they care about them if they don't understand the rules.

#13 Posted by Jokergeist (4935 posts) - - Show Bio

Meh. Depending on how naughty the kid is.

#14 Posted by MyNameWasDeleted (679 posts) - - Show Bio

I used to think yes, spanking is the right thing to do, until I did it and then I felt so awful I can't even express the gut wrenching feeling.

#15 Posted by The Stegman (25972 posts) - - Show Bio

@joshmightbe: Well I'm not a parent, so I really can't weigh in too much on this topic, I know it must be hard to raise a child and the temptation to give them a little slap must be strong sometimes, but I see some parents go WAY overboard with it in public, slapping the kids just because they pick up something in a store. Like come on, violence shouldn't be the FIRST solution you go to.

#16 Edited by Eternal19 (2076 posts) - - Show Bio

If you mean spanking then yes

#17 Posted by Veshark (9058 posts) - - Show Bio

I think it's alright in moderation, when the kid's still young and rebellious. I was beaten the crap out of as a kid, but long as the parents explain to the child the error of his ways after the beating, I think it does work for most kids. Hell what do I know about parenting, but hey, I turned out alright. Pretty much once most kids hit the 13 to 14 year old mark, the physical punishment starts switching to groundings and verbal arguments.

#18 Posted by Dragonborn_CT (23782 posts) - - Show Bio

If its this kid, then its okay.

#19 Posted by Fuchsia_Nightingale (10130 posts) - - Show Bio
#20 Posted by ThatGuyWithHeadPhones (12368 posts) - - Show Bio

Depends

#21 Posted by ShadowSwordmaster (16374 posts) - - Show Bio

No.

#22 Posted by Bruxae (14008 posts) - - Show Bio

I got beat bad by my parents and it just made me angrier and they came to regret it eventually, but I do think a wakeup slap is justified in certain situations.

#23 Edited by danhimself (22713 posts) - - Show Bio

freaking hippies in this thread...yes...spanking a child when they've done something bad is ok...you're their parent not their buddy

#24 Edited by SOG7dc (8034 posts) - - Show Bio

I refer to the bible here "spare the rod spoil

The child" I got spankings and turned out fine. I have the conversations with my mother about how I'd rather not do it but I will refer to the wisdom of God and not my own

#25 Edited by Manchine (4185 posts) - - Show Bio

Spanking should be a last resort but yes it should be used. When necessary.

#26 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (17132 posts) - - Show Bio

I'll say this. I got smacked hard a few times as a kid and every time I deserved it.

#27 Posted by jloneblackheart (5482 posts) - - Show Bio

No spankings or whoopings, but I might employ some wrist locks or pain compliance. Just like the dog, a little flick on the nose works just fine. No marks, no damage, no continued or excessive pain and no mental trauma.

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#28 Posted by SideburnGuru (1338 posts) - - Show Bio

This is why the current generation is filled of brats. "NO SPANKING, IT'S HORRIBLE." Get real.

A simple spanking, with a belt or hand is fine. Hell, the kids were more in control because the teachers got to do the ruler smack to the wrist.


#29 Posted by mikethekiller (8481 posts) - - Show Bio

I got whoopins and I turned out fine.

#30 Posted by Veshark (9058 posts) - - Show Bio

This is why the current generation is filled of brats. "NO SPANKING, IT'S HORRIBLE." Get real.

A simple spanking, with a belt or hand is fine. Hell, the kids were more in control because the teachers got to do the ruler smack to the wrist.

Mmhmm. Word.

Remember me and my friends used to lay glue on our hands and let it harden, just to lessen the pain of the whipping cane.

#31 Posted by HBKTimHBK (5293 posts) - - Show Bio

No, my parents made a point of never hitting me and I turned out just fine.

#32 Edited by Vance Astro (91403 posts) - - Show Bio

I'd never do, nor I ever really had a spanking, belt or other wise. i've been hit in the hand. Look I don't think it's as black and white as people put it, kids respond to different things.Abusing a child is not right no matter what.

I have to agree with you on the idea that it's not as black and white as people put it. If you weren't spanked and you turned out fine, that doesn't mean someone else who was will turn out the same. There are alot of different factors that weigh on a child's behavior.

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#33 Posted by Juiceboks (10651 posts) - - Show Bio

Absolutely. Raised in a Jamaican household, I was spanked when I needed it. I wasn't hit often due to the fact that I learn quick but still. As long as it's moderation I vehemently support it.

#34 Edited by Oscuro (1124 posts) - - Show Bio

I have no issue with disciplining children this way. I got my ass whooped plenty as a youngster. Never abused though. It may work for some and not for others. If I have children I'll probably use it as more of a last resort, verbal correction should do the trick more often than not.

#35 Edited by BadVoodoo (381 posts) - - Show Bio

If my son robbed another kid i'd do a "WHAT THE HELLS THE MATTER WITH YOU" backhand smack.

If my son is trying to go out when i said hes grounded and ignores me i'd pull him inside.

If my son had a knife and was trying to kill and said he was going to stab me "serious or out of spite" i'd punch him in the gut.

If my Daughter did any of the following, I'd give her a soft "WHAT THE HELLS THE MATTER WITH YOU" 2 finger smack, for 2 and 3 i'd put an iced cloth on the back of the neck, works like a charm for breaking up cat fights.

I wouldn't hit my child, maybe once so he doesn't turn into a pussy that flinches at pain when where playing around but i wouldn't hit him. I'd just tell him and he'll listen.

#36 Edited by Teerack (7418 posts) - - Show Bio

Some times.

#37 Posted by mrdecepticonleader (18710 posts) - - Show Bio

No. I don't think hitting children makes them behave any better. You can bring a child up and do a good job without hitting them.

#38 Posted by JulieDC (1067 posts) - - Show Bio

Nope, violent solutions are for the weak-minded and the lazy.

#39 Edited by SideburnGuru (1338 posts) - - Show Bio

@juliedc said:

Nope, violent solutions are for the weak-minded and the lazy.

Oh, you mean like the generation that didn't get spanked or disciplined well?

#40 Posted by SOG7dc (8034 posts) - - Show Bio

@sideburnguru: Oh my God...sideburn I think we may agree on something!

#41 Posted by pooty (11715 posts) - - Show Bio

I believe when a child turns 3yrs old you have a right to hit them in the throat or the stomach. if you old enough to talk back then you old enough to get F*cked up!!!!end quote Physical pain is a good deterrent and motivator. Ask any slave and they will agree

#42 Edited by JulieDC (1067 posts) - - Show Bio

@sideburnguru: Whatever, I stand by what I said, will not be changing my opinion and having seen your behavior in other threads, I have no desire to debate with you as it would be a huge waste of my time. Have a nice life.

#43 Posted by mikethekiller (8481 posts) - - Show Bio

@pooty said:

I believe when a child turns 3yrs old you have a right to hit them in the throat or the stomach. if you old enough to talk back then you old enough to get F*cked up!!!!

-Bernie Mac

#45 Posted by Mild_Karl (131 posts) - - Show Bio

I don't think anyone hitting anyone else is particularly ok. I'm not really sure how I'm going to cope with this if/when I become a parent, but I was spanked as a child & consider myself well-adjusted and very well-behaved, though chalk that up to great parenting.

Think I'd rather focus on being a parent instead of a disciplinarian and figure out non-violent ways to discipline my child.

#47 Posted by SideburnGuru (1338 posts) - - Show Bio

@juliedc said:

@sideburnguru: Whatever, I stand by what I said, will not be changing my opinion and having seen your behavior in other threads, I have no desire to debate with you as it would be a huge waste of my time. Have a nice life.

Okay, I know I act like a smug rude, s.o.b. in some of them, but I'm pretty sure I acknowledge that in those threads, and I've gained mutal respect because I'm upfront when I'm about to be biased. Let's not already start to say I have such a horrible rep here.



I don't think anyone hitting anyone else is particularly ok. I'm not really sure how I'm going to cope with this if/when I become a parent, but I was spanked as a child & consider myself well-adjusted and very well-behaved, though chalk that up to great parenting.

Think I'd rather focus on being a parent instead of a disciplinarian and figure out non-violent ways to discipline my child.

I really respect that, and I think that's pretty cool based off your experience with it. Well played.

#48 Posted by New_World_Order (13516 posts) - - Show Bio

@juiceboks: Your jamacian too? Well I am not entirely, but my parents are. I got ass whoppings everyday with any item they could find. But that all stopped last year lol

#49 Posted by JediXMan (31268 posts) - - Show Bio

Wasn't hit, and I turned out fine.

I couldn't imagine myself hitting my (future) kids. I have this sort of protective nature in me for kids.

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#50 Posted by Strongarm (5857 posts) - - Show Bio

Is that kid a child soldier?