Do you hate being compared?

Personally, I posted this thread to cool my head off. During dinner we discussed for my graduation and and I did not enter the honor roll. I was hoping for a positive response because I'll graduate instead I got scolded for not entering the honor roll and I was compared to my cousin who made through the honor roll. Why people wants me to be somebody that I'm not. I'm sick of being compared I have my own talents and they have their own and yet they still notice others and not you. Are you sick of being compared?

so, correct me if I am wrong, but you are asking us if we are sick of it academically/profesionally, as opposed to being compared as friends or relatives?

Yes, that's on the long, long list of things my parents do that I resent them for

@jugjugbanks: is up to you if you take it professionaly or academically

Yes. Although my parents don't do it, I'm not subject to it very much if at all. I abhor it mostly due to my massive ego. Which I hide VERY well in social situations, but if I get compared to someone else it's on. It's a big tick off for me.

They are different. Who you are born to is not the same as what you can choose to learn to become a comix or animation paid professional, or SAT tests.

You can be a Lisa Simspson genius and be born to a meat bag version of Bender in Futurama. Nothing you do or say will make a difference to such a meat-head (or in this case, iron-head).

It doesn't really bother me. Especially when the person who is doing the judging hasn't stepped up to the pedestal either.

@monsterstomp: Or you have and they haven't, as per audience vs. actor. Well said, mon ami.

@jugjugbanks: the main question still is do you hate being compared? As long you are being compared you can aswer this question whether professionaly/academicaly

@monsterstomp: You sir deserve an award

My family never compares me to other family.

@dagmar_merrill: Your a fortunate one good for you :)

Not exactly the same thing, but my mom's favorite way to guilt me is "your grandparents would be so disappointed in you".

As a paid artist and writer, NO. If I do my job and CARE about my job and am not some lazy arse slacker-ass hipstertard looking for a hand-out, without knowing me at all, you will see my work, buy my work and that is that. The relationship as per this thread is clear, honest and clean.

In terms of Family, however, baring in mind the sad truths of King Lear and Cordelia (penned by Shakespeare), no, not happy.

No I loved being compared to others in an effort to shame my own accomplishments, it helped foster a sense of sarcasm in me, and don't-give-a-damn in what others-think-of-me attitude that can only come as the natural result from such comparisons. Embrace the comparisons, it will make you a deeper, more insightful, egotistical and attractive person in the future… well unless the people making the harsh comparisons are right and you end up homeless in a third world country shooting drugs into your veins as you wander around singing Stings 'Englishman in New York' with a pack of wild, feral and rabid cats. Though I am sure there are certain benefits to living with a gang of cats as well.

If it really bothers you though, try not to take it to heart, sometimes people have odd ideas about ways to motivate other people, chances are the people doing the comparisons care deeply about you and just worry about your future and their idea of your happiness and success relies on certain tangible markers. Possibly a type of projection, can depend, so try and think about what they mean, rather than what they say. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and resent them too much.

@jugjugbanks: Your an artist? That's so cool

QFT.

@sc: Hey thnx man that advice helped me alot

Can i take a one day trip inside your brain?

Pilasy:La Voix d'un homme

@marvelelite09: Thannk you.

Unfortunately, no matter what a few fanlings get upset with me over saying, the only way to get paid to draw comics is to *accept* being compared. That's what portfolio reviews ARE. That's what sending your samples to editors against FIVE THOUSAND OTHER PEOPLE A MONTH to Marvel or DC or Dark Horse means.

Only whiney ass babies have a problem with that, because no-one4 on THIS site makes that rule: the companies do. and no-one on THIS site (despite a certain whiney UNPAID artist I'm thinking of) denies that someone on Facebook or an unpublished person in the back of Wondercoin

(that's not a typo, it's a pun)

Artist's Alley is "the same" as someone who got a $2000 royalty check from Vertigo.

They'll be a snivelling 2 faced beeeeeeatche and whine about it here or at CBR and pretend that's not the case, though.

Until they make their first $3000 off a single issue by any of the big 5.

Then the asswanks change their tune pretty fast. ;)

Never been compared to anyone else. Sounds annoying though.

Makes one glad to not be a triplet or quintuplet. ack.

Story of my life.

Sometimes.

Yes, but not nearly as much as I hate being generalized.

Yes

I've barely been compared to anyone, and even when I have been, I didn't really care.

No. I believe in my own uniqueness and capabilities. You should too.

That's why I'm one of a kind

Well I'm the younge brother.....so......but it's usually how I'm better whether it be teachers, friends, family, coaches, ex GFs, etc

Yes

I don't find it fair to compare any two things to prove that one is better than the other. To prove that one's aspects are better than another I am find understandable..

I made Honor Roll this semester. My brother didn't. So they compared him to me. When it comes to sports or math I'm compared to my brother. Meh. I learned to just live with it. It's normal for people to compare themselves to others no matter what.

I always hate it

I don't get compared in that way often, but I do hate it whenever it does happen or whenever it has happened.

I hate being compared, I'm smart but the problem is people think I'm smarter than what I really am (BTW in the age of 10 my IQ was at least 140)

I despise it..

Never really happened to me, but if it did it'd probably be annoying

I am not usually compared to many people. People are more often being compared to me. So I can't really answer the question.

Not to sound edgy, but I am who I am, and I don't care much what others think of me.

Nope.

No.

yes

i'm perfect so no one does it anyway

Yerp

Pretty much a yardstick. I resent the resentment caused by this.

I hate being compared when i play warwick and you play volibear