@pro_nelson:
Everyone has been wonderful on this thread and has given you some good advice. What's important is that you share how you are feeling with as much people as you can -- not that everyone will be able to help you and most won't really know what to say except wish you luck but that's good. Think of it as throwing out a big fishnet -- the wider and larger the net, the more you know there are people in your life that matter -- they matter to you and you matter to them and also, in recognizing you have unexplained sadness, you recognize you need help. The more people who are aware of this, the more safer you are making yourself. On top of all those benefits, your courage in talking about it can (and most likely) will inspire someone else to open up and then you will be part of their cast net. No one should feel alone -- it's an awful feeling. Plus, fifteen is a hard age, there is so much going on plus the future feels like its coming hard and fast, and yet, so far away.
Sounds like you have a loving, supportive family and circle of friends. It's wonderful you are seeing someone and you seem to be an extremely intelligent and self-aware person. Clearly you have a lot to offer the world and I am positive things will get better for you. Someone who likes comic books is already an extra-ordinarily awesome human being with great taste in hobbies. :)
@wolverine08:
How awesome are you? Only fourteen and you have that level of clarity? Good on you for pushing past that terrible time in your life -- I'm sorry you were subjected to such ignorance and meanness. Plus, you like Wolverine -- that's like the cherry on top.
@batmannflash:
It sounds like your family has been through quite a lot. Not having your father around and your sister shutting herself off from your mother (and you seeing the effect it has on your mother) must be so difficult - especially since you are now the oldest and you have your little sister who is trying to sift through all this herself. I think you understanding where your mother is coming from is commendable -- recognizing how hard she works for all of you and knowing she believes everything she does is for your own sake speaks volumes of how great you are as a son. It sounds to me like you are aware your mother is wrong for taking such a strong position with you - in her mind, listing faults and not mentioning the good must be so disheartening since you love her so much and want to make her happy. I do hope you realize it's not your job to make her happy -- she is who she is and you are who you are. Acknowledging a person's faults doesn't take anything away from how much you love and respect them and perhaps in your instance, you can work on acknowledging more (as you did earlier in your first post about your grade point average) of your good qualities and try to soften the blows of her harsh words and criticisms as something not so much about you, but about herself.
Please don't take offense at what I've said -- my heart breaks for you because of the responsibility you seem to be bearing. It's good that you have outlets of which you can escape -- and although it's painful for you, the empathy you have for your mother is an extraordinary thing. She is incredibly lucky to have you as a son and I am sure she knows it.
@ultrastarkiller:
You must have a large family -- you mentioned sisters and brothers (as in, both plural) so things have got to be crazy in your house. :) Must be hard to get one on one time with your parents (although clearly it's great when you do) yet with a large family comes a lot of love which you shared with us happens to be a lot. What I've noticed with a few friends of mine who come from large families like yours, they sometimes feel ignored and passed over a lot -- they say the same things you do to an extent -- mentioning things like their siblings getting a lot of praise from their parents -- even the part about praising them to other people. That has to hurt a lot. One of them did manage to get some comfort - her mom told her that she was so confident and self-assured -- she had no idea her daughter felt the way she did, something along the lines of just assuming she was the kid they didn't have to worry about. I'm not saying that's what is happening in your case but your did mention hardly ever getting in trouble and usually being quiet and well behaved. Whether they tell you or not, I am sure your parents appreciate that -- imagine if you weren't? You'd get attention alright, but not the good kind. Plus, your parents have gotten so used to not having to worry about you that they've come to rely on that peace of mind so when you act up (which is rare) they come down hard on you which I agree is unfair considering how good you are most of the time.
You mentioned you're pretty awesome -- lol -- so you pretty much have that confidence my friend has as well so maybe there is a little bit of her situation in yours as well. If not, well, there could be something in play you aren't aware of now that you will be later (again, like my friend) which made it not okay, but at least better because you can understand their behaviour. Still though -- seriously -- big family. O_0
@omgomgwtfwtf:
Good for you for managing to get yourself diagnosed and on the path to wellness. You've been through some pretty rough times -- self medicating (let along cutting yourself and abusing alcohol) is scary stuff and something not easy to recover from. Good advice for anyone seeking help -- so, so important to be as open and honest as your can with a professional so you can receive the proper treatment and get to a place where you can function and feel okay. I appreciate you sharing your story -- it's a harsh condition to deal with.
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