You can set the mood of this post with the chorus of this song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzL-mb06nWM
or this song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EI6iZJOntY8
Where was I? Oh yeah. So, I guess this would make a good general thread for college students to vent their problems, no matter how serious or trivial. Though, I made this simply to vent my own. And there's no better place to vent then with people who don't know you(so you don't care if they judge you and are willing to be more open to them).
Anyways, so yeah...to my severe disappointment, I'm starting to have twinges of regret for not joining a fraternity at my college. Ugh. Why? I didn't realize how much not going Greek would restrict my social life in terms of partying and nightlife...I would rather not be on comicvine on a Saturday night. ('-' ) I would rather be out pretending like I know how to dance at a dance party. Working magic on girls. Laughing at drunken idiots. Ect.
However, I'm ashamed to admit that regret is starting to gnaw itself into my mind, like a toothache that won't go away. What would I be doing now if I had joined a fraternity?
I didn't join a fraternity for several reasons.1. Rushing involves a lot of manflirting(I am a man). 2. Pledging involves being forced to do things you don't want to do. 3. I don't drink much since I can't stand the taste of most alcohol and like being in control of myself. 4. I look down on people in frats, who are basically paying hundreds to a thousand dollars for friends...I mean, you do get a lot of connections, including business connections, but still I think the vast majority are in it just to be apart of something, a group bigger than themselves as an individual. A brotherhood. They just want autofriends that they basically didn't have to work for or naturally gain.
I've had different friends be like "You should definitely rush my frat!" And I'm always like "No thanks, I'm good". I probably shouldn't be so confident, but I think I'm too cool for a fraternity.(not to say I think I'm actually cool, just too cool for a fraternity) I can make my way through college with a nongreek social life, just as I can have fun at parties and talk to the girls completely sober. That's what I was telling myself.
And for the most part, it's true. I have a variety of different friend groups for different occasions that I made the genuine way. During the weekdays, when I'm not off doing my own thing, I have different groups I chill with. I study with. Play video games with. Play basketball with. And true, sometimes its just fun to stay in and watch movies till late at night, on the weekend. However, sometimes I just wanna go out, dance, flirt, and socialize with new people(primarily girls).
Which is why I need a party group, or a cool best friend. I need someone or a group of people that I can party with. Sure, I may have at least one friend in every frat, but thats more for getting me into the parties. I want wingmen or a wingman. A person or people who actually interests me for more than a minute or so. People bore me easy, so there's a limit to how long I go along with small talk.
Why? Because I don't like going(like the physical act of going/walking to a party) to parties alone. It makes me self conscious. Which is funny since I usually leave my friends to do my own thing once I get in the door, since I'm usually with people who fail at socializing or female friends. However, I probably wouldn't go solo if I had a serious bro/bros to party with....
If you're still reading, it may seem that I've gone off tangent. But I actually haven't. See, at my college, there's a row/road that all the frats and sororities lie on. Called Frat Row. Usually on the weekend, people(multitudes of groups) just walk down frat row, and they all wander into whatever frat house is playing music and obviously having a party, if there are any. Since I have to walk 8 minutes to get to this row, and have no group to go with, I'm not gonna go. Too much effort for a leap of faith that a random party sprung up. Instead I'm going to write this post on comicvine....lol
The only thing that'll convince me to make the long walk is if I'm going to meet up with any female sorority friends who live on the row beforehand, and then go to a party. Or if I'm meeting a frat friend who's specifically gonna sneak me into their frats party like a VIP lol
In other words, I miss out on a lot of parties simply from not having a definite "party group" to go with, because otherwise I just don't go. If I was in a fraternity...I would have a definite party group, because frat people are always looking to party and they're a brotherhood. I would never care about walking to the row alone, because I would be walking with a purpose of meeting someone at some specific place, instead of just wandering alone. I would know about most parties, instead of having to text random frat/sorority friends and ask. I would not be typing this post on comicvine on a saturday night...The nights of my weekends would be a lot more fun. How can I desire something I Iook down on?
Sure, I could go to actual clubs instead. But, that would require me paying to get in, that would require me having a "clubbing" group, that would require some of my friends to not be socially awkward, that would require other of my friends to not be soo socially competent they have girlfriends and thus dont want to party and get tempted to cheat, that would require a car, that would require me to start putting in effort to hang out with outlier friend groups who go clubbing. Way too lazy to put in that much effort.
I guess. What it all boils down to. Is that I need a best friend or a main group of friends - that I can do almost anything with. That I can study with, play videogames with, pause, play sports with, go back to studying with, and when the night time comes, go partying with. I have all these different groups, different friends. Good friends. But, I don't have that one How I Met Your Mother group. That one Friends group. That one Community. Or just a single really close friend that I could do almost anything with(well, I do. But she's a girl and I like her. So she doesn't count). I'm pretty independent, some may call me a loner. But, as a basic human like everyone else, even I desire a perfectly suited companion I can own the night with....College problems.
/vent
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So yeah, vent your college issues if you like. It could be about classes, Financial aid, ect. I may vent some more of mine. It'll make you feel good. ;)
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